Relationships

Relationship is a state of connectedness between people. A state involving mutual dealings between people or parties or countries. A close connection marked by community of interests or similarity in nature or character. Relation is an act of narration and the mutual dealings or connections among persons or groups. Keeping in Touch - Social Networks.



Friendships - Family

Dating - Marriage - Human Sexuality - Love

Self Smart - Introvert - Body Language

People Smart - Social Intelligence - Questions

Hate - Anger - Jealousy - Praising - Awarding - Punishing

Questions to Ask when Trying to Know Someone.

Interaction is a mutual or reciprocal actions, a kind of action that occurs as two or more objects have an effect upon one another. The idea of a two-way effect is essential in the concept of interaction, as opposed to a one-way causal effect. A closely related term is interconnectivity, which deals with the interactions of interactions within systems. Combinations of many simple interactions can lead to surprising emergent phenomena.

Human Bonding is the process of development of a close, interpersonal relationship. It most commonly takes place between family members or friends, but can also develop among groups, such as sporting teams and whenever people spend time together. Bonding is a mutual, interactive process, and is different from simple liking. Bonding typically refers to the process of attachment that develops between romantic partners, close friends, or parents and children. This bond is characterized by emotions such as affection and trust. Any two people who spend time together may form a bond. Male bonding refers to the establishment of relationships between men through shared activities. The term female bonding refers to the formation of close personal relationships between women.

Working Together - Trust Worthy - Oxytocin - Early Childhood

Belonging is happiness felt in a secure relationship. Be a member or part of. Be in the right place or situation. Be suitable or acceptable. Being appreciated and noticed.

Validation by Proxy - Attention - Rejection - Expectations

Belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group. People tend to have an 'inherent' desire to belong and be an important part of something greater than themselves. This implies a relationship that is greater than simple acquaintance or familiarity. The need to belong is the need to give, and receive attention to, and from, others. Belonging is a strong and inevitable feeling that exists in human nature. To belong or not to belong can occur due to choices of one's self, or the choices of others. Not everyone has the same life and interests, hence not everyone belongs to the same thing or person. Without belonging, one cannot identify themselves as clearly, thus having difficulties communicating with and relating to their surroundings. You just don't want to conform to something until you fully understand it. And you don't want to ruin your chances to work with other people who can be a great benefit to you and to others. To belong is to be someone that others would want to belong to. You have to be able to empathize and sympathize with people. If you want to feel connected, you have to be connected. Listening is a responsibility and continually learning is a responsibility. Don't be just a pawn, be all the pieces at once. Collective Identity is the shared sense of belonging to a group.

Acceptance is the act of accepting someone with approval. Showing someone a favorable reception.

Why am I here if I'm not accepted or appreciated? Do I need to conform just to fit in? Do I need validation from others in order to feel important and valuable? No. But getting positive feedback does help, as long as it's honest feedback. I can take the criticism as long as it has some value. What's not acceptable are comments that have no value or common sense, and mostly just reveal a persons false sense of security.

Recognition is the public acknowledgement of a person's status or merits, achievements, virtues or service.  The state or quality of being recognized or acknowledged. The process of recognizing something or someone by remembering. Acknowledgement, praise or respect for something, e.g. having a quality, producing something, doing something, etc. An acceptance (as of a claim) as true and valid.

Fitting In is to be accepted into a group of people as a member of that group. It may also mean that you don't stand out from the average behavior and appearance of the group. Avoiding Isolation and Alienation.

Need for Affiliation describes a person's need to feel a sense of involvement and "belonging" within a social group.

Affiliation is the act of becoming formally connected or joined, like with a social or business relationship.

Kinship is the web of social relationships that form an important part of the lives of most humans in most societies, although its exact meanings even within this discipline are often debated. Family Tree.

Emergence is a process whereby larger entities, patterns, and regularities arise through interactions among smaller or simpler entities that themselves do not exhibit such properties. Transcendence.

Intimate is a relationship marked by close acquaintance, association, or familiarity. Having or fostering a warm or friendly and informal atmosphere. Having mutual interests or affections and an established friendship. Thoroughly acquainted through study or experience. Someone to whom private matters are confided in. Intimate can also mean being involved in a sexual relationship.

Relationships can get weird at times. When someone acts weird, and when they don't explain why they were acting weird, then you will have no idea what that person was thinking or know the reasoning that was behind the weird behavior. If you never have a real conversation with someone, then the relationship will always be a little weird, especially if neither person is working on any type of personal development or educating themselves on a regular basis. With relationships you need to deliberately work on the relationship and purposely find better ways to Communicate. This needs time and effort. If you never take the time and effort, your relationships will never improve on their own. You both need to commit to learning, and not just learn from each other, but learning as mush as you can about human development as well as the world around you. This takes time and effort. You need to fully understand the importance of this responsibility that we call learning. To under estimate the importance of learning, is to deny yourself of a life worth living.

Does Anyone Really Know Anyone? Many people have very close relationships with other people, but they might not truly know that person. Some people don't even try to know someone personally on a personal level. Some people don't know how to be a close friend, and other people just don't want to be close to anyone. There is a big difference between protecting your privacy and being isolated. Don't expect things. It takes a lot of time and many personal conversations in order to know someone.

Boundaries - Personal Space - Losing Touch

Some people that are close to you can be abusive or insensitive sometimes. So you have to protect your heart. No one has the right to emotionally disrespect you or break your heart. Don't take things personally or take something to the heart. Listen to someone and don't get emotionally upset, because that would be a distraction and also cause confusion on your part. Focus on the message and reply respectfully. You can still care about someone even when you are not emotionally attached to them anymore. Some people can be anti-social and still want attention and friendship, and navigating through that contradiction can be difficult, but not impossible. You can't have it both ways or you can't have the cake and eat it too, or expect things. And remember, some people enjoy being as*holes and being disrespectable to other people. Misery Loves Company is a saying that means that people who are suffering are comforted by the knowledge that other people are also suffering, even if they are the source of the suffering and causing the unhappiness. If someone is miserable, they sometimes like others to be miserable too, so that they can feel better about themselves. One-Way Street in a relationship means that only one of the sides in the agreement or the relationship is offering something or is benefitting from it. For some, loyalty is a one-way street; something you demand but do not give. You can't expect more from other people than you expect from yourself. To tell people to do as I say and not as I do is being a hypocrite and a bigot. You should fix yourself first, and check yourself before you wreck yourself, or before you wreck other people.

Don't expect to be loved by someone or to be loved by other people. Your admiration and respect for others is not about getting the same admiration and respect in return. Your conditions or expectations should never be selfish. Having unconditional love for someone or unconditional dislike of someone is something that many people don't fully understand, and the reasons why someone likes or dislikes something or someone is rarely understood. To Explain Thyself is to truly Know Thyself.

Attachment in Adults can be applied to adult relationships including friendships, emotional affairs, adult romantic or platonic relationships and in some cases relationships with inanimate objects ("transitional objects"). Four main styles of attachment have been identified in adults: Secure attachment style is demonstrated by those possessing a positive view of self and a positive view of others. Anxious-preoccupied attachment style is demonstrated by those possessing a negative view of self and a positive view of others. Dismissive-avoidant attachment style is demonstrated by those possessing a positive view of self and a negative view of others. Fearful-avoidant attachment style is demonstrated by those possessing an unstable fluctuating/confused view of self and others. People with losses or other trauma, such as sexual abuse in childhood and adolescence may often develop this type of attachment. Relationships between adults differ in many ways from relationships between children and caregivers. The claim is not that these two kinds of relationships are identical. The claim is that the core principles of attachment theory apply to both kinds of relationships. Investigators tend to describe the core principles of attachment theory in light of their own theoretical interests. The emotional and behavioral dynamics of infant–caregiver relationships and adult relationships are governed by the same biological system. The kinds of individual differences observed in infant–caregiver relationships are similar to the ones observed in various close adult relationships. Individual differences in adult attachment behavior are reflections of the expectations and beliefs people have formed about themselves and their close relationships on the basis of their attachment histories; these "working models" are relatively stable and, as such, may be reflections of early caregiving experiences. Romantic love, as commonly conceived, involves the interplay of attachment, caregiving and intimacy. Compare this with the five "core propositions" of attachment theory listed by Rholes and Simpson: Although the basic impetus for the formation of attachment relationships is provided by biological factors, the bonds that children form with their caregivers are shaped by interpersonal experience. Experiences in earlier relationships create internal working models and attachment styles that systematically affect attachment relationships. The attachment orientations of adult caregivers influence the attachment bond their children have with them. Working models and attachment orientations are relatively stable over time, but they are not impervious to change. Some forms of psychological maladjustment and clinical disorders are attributable in part to the effects of insecure working models and attachment styles. While these two lists clearly reflect the theoretical interests of the investigators who created them, a closer look reveals a number of shared themes. The shared themes claim that: People are biologically driven to form attachments with others, but the process of forming attachments is influenced by learning experiences. Individuals form different kinds of attachments depending on the expectations and beliefs they have about their relationships. These expectations and beliefs constitute internal "working models" used to guide relationship behaviors. Internal "working models" are relatively stable even though they can be influenced by experience. Individual differences in attachment can contribute positively or negatively to mental health and to the quality of relationships with others. No doubt these themes could be described in a variety of ways (and other themes added to the list). Regardless of how one describes the core principles of attachment theory, the key insight is that the same principles of attachment apply to close relationships throughout the lifespan. The principles of attachment between children and caregivers are fundamentally the same as the principles of attachment between adults. Attachment Theory.

Friendship - The Importance of Friendships

Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people. It is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than just an association. Friendship characteristics include affection; kindness, love, virtue, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, loyalty, generosity, forgiveness, mutual understanding and compassion, enjoyment of each other's company, trust, and the ability to be oneself, express one's feelings to others, and make mistakes without fear of judgment from the friend. Friendship is an essential aspect of relationship building skills. One of the greatest benefits of a friendship is that you get to be yourself, and also say things and do things that you normally wouldn’t do. In a way you’re clarifying who you are. And you’re not just revealing your true self to your friends, but also defining who you are to yourself. This is where a person can find acceptance, and not just acceptance with others, but acceptance with themselves. Good friendships are sanctuaries that are filled with therapeutic communication and wonderful memories. But friendships can also be incredibly devastating when a friendship falls apart. And you’re not just losing a friend, but also losing a part of yourself. Friendships offer us a type of sharing that is our connection, connecting our inner world with the outer world. Everyone needs a friend, but not all friendships are healthy. So choose your friends wisely and share your time accordingly. And remember the most important friendship in your life is the friendship that you have with yourself. Because when there is no one there to talk to, you better be a best friend to yourself, because if you’re not, you will lose the only true friend that you will ever have.

Social Networks - Dunbar's Number

"A friendship is like having a type of insurance. It's knowing that someone will be there for you when you need them. But making an insurance claim can sometimes be as difficult as making a friendship claim."

With having a lot of friends you can never be prepared enough for when a friendship takes a turn for the worse and your friends mistakes becomes your mistakes. And not only does a friendship go sour, but you're left picking up the pieces and forced to perform damage control in order to protect your Reputation. Don't bother playing The Blame Game, it's best that you learn what you can from the experience and apply that knowledge to future events so that you can avoid repeating your mistakes, even if those mistakes are someone else's. 

Interpersonal Relationship is a strong, deep, or close association or acquaintance between two or more people that may range in duration from brief to enduring. This association may be based on inference, love, solidarity, regular business interactions, or some other type of social commitment. Interpersonal relationships are formed in the context of social, cultural and other influences. The context can vary from family or kinship relations, friendship, marriage, relations with associates, work, clubs, neighborhoods, and places of worship. They may be regulated by law, custom, or mutual agreement, and are the basis of social groups and society as a whole.

So what defines a 'Friend' ? What does it mean to really know someone? - Types of Friends.

Friend is a person that you have known personally for some time and like to spend time with. A friend is someone who you can trust and feel comfortable with. Someone close to you that you can share feelings or opinions with. Someone who provides cooperation or assistance when needed. Someone who enjoys your company and always wishes the best for you. A person who helps to reduce the intensity of fears and helps you to be calm. A person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. Having affection and a positive feeling of liking. Commitment and binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to someone. Giving Promise to someone and give grounds for expectations by agreeing to do (or not to do) something in the future. A person who is on good terms with another. A person who is not hostile. A person you know well and regard with affection and Trust. Having Closeness to someone and having personal knowledge or information about someone but not necessarily knowing everything about someone. A person who is Loyal and provides Cooperation and Assistance. A feeling of being intimate and belonging together. Having dependability, availability, reliability, durability, safety, security and honesty.

Befriend is to become friends with someone. To be-a-friend.

Consoling is to give moral or emotional strength to. Affording comfort or solace.

Best Friend is saying to someone that their friendship is extremely important, which says that you have measured that persons qualities and their abilities as well as their friendship and have determined that they are very important to you and also valuable as a person, and not just valuable as a friend. Your Best Friend is not your only friend, just the person who listens to you more and that you listen to them more intently.

Buddy System is a procedure in which two people, the "buddies", operate together as a single unit so that they are able to monitor and help each other.

Types of Friends

Each kind of friend has its own level of closeness and Trustworthiness.

Best Friend, Good Friend, Old Friend, Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Family Friend, Work Friend, Associate, School Friend, Classmate, Buddy, Sports Friend, Religious Friend, Church Friend, Internet Friend, Childhood Friend, Neighborhood Friend, Roommate, Fellow Traveler, Kinship, Comrade, Crony, Confidant, Backer, Advocate, Ally, Confrere, Compatriot, Colleague, Acquaintance.

Social Relation is any relationship between two or more individuals.

Chum is a close friend who accompanies his buddies in their activities. The people you hang out with to unwind. These might be family members or personal friends with whom you can sit out on the deck with and talk about anything, with the confidence to know that nothing you say will be held against you.

Fan is an ardent follower and admirer; Patron, Supporter, Political Friend.

Admirer is a person who admires; someone who esteems or respects or approves.

Blood Brother is a male with the same parents as someone else, A male sworn (usually by a ceremony involving the mingling of blood) to treat another as his brother. Family.

Camaraderie is mutual trust and friendship among people who spend a lot of time together. Brotherhood.

Fellowship is an association of people who share common beliefs or activities. The state of being with someone.

Familiarity is personal knowledge or information about someone or something. Close or warm friendship.

Sociability is the relative tendency or disposition to be sociable or associate with one's fellows.

Sidekick is a close companion or colleague (not necessarily in fiction) who is, or generally regarded as, subordinate to the one he or she accompanies. Some well-known fictional sidekicks are Don Quixote's Sancho Panza, Sherlock Holmes' Doctor Watson, The Lone Ranger's Tonto, The Green Hornet's Kato, Shrek's Donkey, Sonic's Tails and Batman's Robin.

Confidant someone who you can confide in and trust. Confidants  are your inner circle of individuals that provide guidance and support.

Colleagues are the people you work with on a daily basis and get stuff done together. Working Together.

Counterparts are similarly situated peers. You are in the same orbit.

Contacts are your social network connections list. These are people you know, do not see consistently, but you know them well enough to work together or ask for help or information when needed. Contact is a relationship in which a person, thing, or idea is linked or associated with something else. A supplier.

I seem to have more Acquaintances then Friends, so what's the difference?

Acquaintance is a state of being acquainted with more than just a slight or superficial knowledge about someone. Being Familiar with someone as a result of continued meetings, as in old companions. Mutual communication and sharing thoughts and feelings. Being comfortable with the interchange of thought, but not having 100 percent trust in that person or being totally open and honest. Friend: A person you know well and regard with affection and trust. Faith: Confidence in a person or plan.

Familiarity and intimacy mark different degrees of closeness in social intercourse. What you perceive may affect your awareness.

"Sometimes people don’t notice the things others do for them until they stop doing them."

High Maintenance Person is someone who has more needs and demands and therefore is more challenging and more difficult to manage. Usually has a greater requirement for affection and attention and has higher than normal expectations. Could be finicky and wants things their way. A little more on the selfish side and a little more stubborn then most people.

Low Maintenance Person is someone who requires very little time, money, or effort to look after them. You don't need to call them every day and know what they're up to.

Neighbor is a person who lives close by to you or is located near another, sometimes in a place called the neighborhood.

It's a beautiful day in this neighborhood, A beautiful day for a neighbor, Would you be mine? Could you be mine? It's a neighborly day in this beautywood, A neighborly day for a beauty, Would you be mine? Could you be mine? I have always wanted to have a neighbor just like you, I've always wanted to live in a neighborhood with you. So let's make the most of this beautiful day, Since we're together, we might as well say, Would you be mine? Could you be mine? Won't you be my neighbor? Won't you please, won't you please, Please won't you be my neighbor? - Mr. Rogers It's a Beautiful Day in This Neighborhood (youtube)

Friends with Knowledge - Life Skills

Everyone should have most of these particular skills below, if not, you should at least know some people who could provide these skills for you. These are the skills that every parent should have. That's why parenting is called a Big Responsibility.


Careers - Professions - Qualities and Skills of a Worker

How to Be a Good Host - Being there for someone is actually physically being there. Empathy and Sympathy.

It's a good idea to have good relationships with people and create strong bonds and friendships. You should know certain people, especially people who have knowledge and skills about society and survival. People who can see things more clearly then others, people who can make good decisions and people who can analyze situations more accurately then most people do. People you can trust. That is what a community should be like, an extension of your family. And this is also how a strong and vibrant society should be created. From there it's all about educating the young so they can continue to make progress, continue to make improvements, and continue to preserve the quality of life for everyone, and for future generations. So every new generation should be more educated then the previous generation. But lately this is not happening fast enough for any type of Singularitarianism to happen. Many improvements in education will be needed in order to reach our goals and to ultimately reach our full potential.

Keeping in Touch

Keep in Touch is when two or more people communicate on a regular basis and keep each other up-to-date on changes and experiences that are important to share or just to talk about. When someone says "let's stay close, or let's stay connected, or let's stay in touch", this is indicating that the person wants to keep communicating with you in order to stay close to you or to get to know you better. Spending too much time away from someone can cause you to feel like you don't know that person well enough anymore in the same way that you did before when you spent more time together. Most people can change over time, and some changes can be big while other changes may not matter. But even when two people spend lots of time together, they may never truly know each other on a personal level because they never really had any meaningful conversations. But opening up to someone can be complicated, especially when there's not enough trust between two people.

Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or, losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?

Life can be really busy and complicated at times, so it's easy to lose sight of people and things. I want to keep in touch with people but at the same time I don't want to lose sight of what I'm doing. Life is full of changes, and sometimes friendships get misplaced during those changes. It's not the quantity of time that you get to spend with your friends, it's the quality of time that's important, which is so true and not just some lame excuse for not calling your friends. Losing touch is not that bad as long as you don't lose touch with yourself. Just to let you know..I'll Be Around - The Spinners (youtube) - Whenever you call me, I'll be there, Whenever you want me, I'll be there, Whenever you need me, I'll be there, I'll be around.

I find it easy to make friends, but I'm not so good at maintaining friendships, why? Many reasons, but which reasons are relevant and which reasons can be easily corrected? And how many real friendships can you realistically maintain without being superficial? And this is not about counting social network friends like on Facebook, because the people with the least amount of friends on Facebook can actually be a better friend then someone who has several hundred friends on Facebook. So I wouldn't use a social network as some kind of an indicator of character. A higher amount of friends does not always equate to a higher level of trustworthiness or friendliness. So what other factors are needed in determining how trusting and how honest someone is? Ratings.

This is not about relationship ghosting, flaking or the silent treatment, it's just ineffective communication skills.

If there's one thing I'm good at, it's losing touch with people. I call it Call Back Disorder. When two people don't communicate with each other, then they lose touch. But it only takes one person to call, and if you're not the one who calls, then losing touch is easy. If you want to keep in touch with me you got to be the one who maintains the friendship and calls. That's why I like my friends to be maintenance free, but that never happens. Because everyone needs maintenance, even me. But I'm improving, except for that phone thing. You would think that I would have mastered the phone by now?  "I was busy"

Because I lost touch with so many friends, Funerals have become the new social gathering. Funerals is where I get to see people that I have not seen in a long time and have lost contact with. Why do we pay more respect to the dead than we do the living. We should respect the living in the same way that we show our respect for the dead. Why wait for someone to die to say how much their life has meant to you.

Why would you stop being friends just because a lot of time has passed? Even when a loved one dies I am still their friend, even knowing that I may never see them again. But if I did see them in heaven, I'm not going to say, "Hey! Why didn't you call me?" I would rather say, "It's good to see you again."

"I have always found it easy to make new friends, but I always found it difficult to keep in touch. My mind is always wondering. There's nothing wrong with my attention span, it's just natural to keep moving. Humans are born to move, born to discover. And that's why humans are all over the planet, and that's why humans are in space. We keep moving, to learn, to know, to live. So if I don't call you, don't worry, I'm just occupied with discovering, like millions of humans have done for the last 500,000 years or so."

It's hard keep all our relationships active. I like to think that we are probably thinking pretty much the same things and living through similar situations, because we all live on the same planet. So I will catch up with you when I see you.

"Even though we may never see each other again, I know in my heart we will always be friends."

"Good Friends are like Stars, you might not always see them but you know they're always there."

"What is time between friends? People change, you change, the world changes. But does that mean the friendship has to change? It only takes a little time to catch up, so if the friendship matters, then catching up will be fun."

A lot of the friends I had were just looking for someone to do crazy stuff with, and of course I was always a willing participant, as well as an instigator, because with my imagination I was always coming up with crazy things to do. But I was extremely lucky to have some friends who had their limits, friends who knew when to say no, and friends who were more aware then I was, which was a good thing because I was stupid enough to do or try almost anything. So having friends with limits definitely helps, they help keep you out of trouble and make you a little more aware of common sense, but not always of course, sometimes stupidity finds a way.

Live and Learn (mistakes)

"I'm the kind of person who hangs around for a while then disappears. I absorb what ever information you have and then I'm off, but not with everyone. There are some people you have to stay connected too."

"As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones."

"Making a hundred friends is not a miracle. The miracle is to make a single friend who will stand by your side even when hundreds are against you."

Having friends is like having Witnesses to moments in your life.

"I feel that some friendships are not even a choice. Some people just tend to gravitate towards one another like some kind of Cosmic Attraction, which is part Curiosity, part Biological and part Symbiotic mutual agreement, none of which neither is aware of."

Rejection - Personal Boundaries - I need a little Space - Being Yourself

Time to yourself is important buts it's not always beneficial. There's a time you need to be Alone with yourself and then there are times that you need to venture out and communicate.

Songs about Friendship - Friends Songs

BEN - Michael Jackson (youtube) - Ben, the two of us need look no more, We both found what we were looking for, With a friend to call my own, I'll never be alone, and you, my friend, will see, You've got a friend in me.

Umbrella: Rihanna (youtube) - When the sun shines, we'll shine together, Told you I'd be here forever, Said I'll always be a friend, Took an oath, I'ma stick it out 'til the end. Come here to me, under my umbrella.

You're My Best Friend - Queen (youtube) - Ooh, you make me live, Whatever this world can give to me, It's you you're all I see, Ooh, you make me live now, honey, Ooh, you make me live, Oh, you're the best friend that I ever had, I've been with you such a long time, You're my sunshine and I want you to know, That my feelings are true, I really love you, Oh, you're my best friend.

I'll Be There - The Jackson 5 (youtube) - You and I must make a pact, We must bring salvation back, Where there is love, I'll be there (I'll be there), I'll reach out my hand to you, I'll have faith in all you do, Just call my name and I'll be there (I'll be there), And oh, I'll be there to comfort you, Build my world of dreams around you, I'm so glad that I found you, I'll be there with a love that's strong, I'll be your strength, I'll keep holdin' on (holdin' on), Yes I will, yes I will.

Lean On Me - Bill Withers (youtube) - Lean on me, when you're not strong, And I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on, For it won't be long, 'Til I'm gonna need, Somebody to lean on.

In My Life - The Beatles (youtube)
That's What Friends Are For - Dionne Warwick (youtube)
You've Got A Friend In Me - Randy Newman (youtube)
With A Little Help From My Friends - The Beatles (youtube)
I’ll Be There For You - The Rembrandts (youtube)
Count On Me - Bruno Mars (youtube)
Wind Beneath My Wings - Bette Midler (youtube)
Anytime You Need A Friend - Mariah Carey (youtube)
I’ll Stand By You - The Pretenders (youtube)
Highasakite - Since Last Wednesday (youtube)
Graduation (Friends Forever) -Vitamin C (youtube)
Best Friend -Harry Nilsson (youtube)
Wannabe -The Spice Girls (youtube)
Thank You For Being A Friend - Andrew Gold (youtube)
Gone, Gone, Gone - Phillip Phillips (youtube)
Lou Reed - Perfect Day (youtube)

We're Going To Be Friends - The White Stripes 2002 (youtube) - Fall is here, hear the yell, Back to school, ring the bell, Brand new shoes, walking blues, Climb the fence, books and pens, I can tell that we are gonna be friends. I can tell that we are gonna be friends, Walk with me, Suzy Lee, Through the park and by the tree, We will rest upon the ground, And look at all the bugs we found, Safely walk to school without a sound, Safely walk to school without a sound, Here we are, no one else, We walked to school all by ourselves, There's dirt on our uniforms, From chasing all the ants and worms, We clean up and now it's time to learn, We clean up and now it's time to learn, Numbers, letters, learn to spell, Nouns, and books, and show and tell, Playtime we will throw the ball, Back to class, through the hall, Teacher marks our height against the wall, Teacher marks our height against the wall, We don't notice any time pass, We don't notice anything, We sit side by side in every class, Teacher thinks that I sound funny, But she likes the way you sing, Tonight I'll dream while I'm in bed, When silly thoughts go through my head, About the bugs and alphabet,  And when I wake tomorrow I'll bet That you and I will walk together again, I can tell that we are gonna be friends, Yes I can tell that we are gonna be friends.

Steady As She Goes - The Raconteurs (youtube) - You've found yourself a friend, That knows you well, But no matter what you do, You'll always feel as though you Tripped and fell. So steady as she goes, When you have completed what you thought you had to do, And your blood's depleted to the point of stable glue, Then you'll get along, Then you'll get along, Steady as she goes. Are you steady now? Steady as she goes.

Love Songs - Relationship Songs

"Sometimes you choose your friends and sometimes friends choose you. But what ever the case may be, the importance of those friendships will always be surprising." Friends.

"Some friendships are created from common interests, and when those interests change, sometimes the friendship changes too."

"A friend is someone who does things that count, but does not stop to count them."

"Anyone can be that someone, that someone that you should listen to, that person who needs you."

"A friend is someone who appreciates your jokes, and most of the time, understands your jokes."

One of the benefits of having a friend is that a friend can tell you something about yourself that you never noticed before. But sometimes the truth hurts, but if you can learn from it, and better yourself, then the criticism, or the friendly observation, will be well worth the pain. Besides, the most important revelations will always have some kind of discomfort or sadness about them.

Family - Relatives - Related

Family are people descended from a common ancestor. A social unit living together. A person having kinship with another or others. Family is a group of people related either by consanguinity (by recognized birth) or affinity (by marriage or other relationship). The purpose of families is to maintain the well-being of its members and of society. Ideally, families would offer predictability, structure, and safety as members mature and participate in the community. In most societies, it is within families that children acquire socialization for life outside the family, and acts as the primary source of attachment, nurturing, and socialization for humans. Additionally, as the basic unit for meeting the basic needs of its members, it provides a sense of boundaries for performing tasks in a safe environment, ideally builds a person into a functional adult, transmits culture, and ensures continuity of humankind with precedents of knowledge. We Are Family - Sister Sledge (youtube)

Family Relatives Include Brother, Sister, Mother, Father, Parent, Wife, Husband, Child, Step Child, Niece, Nephew, Aunt, Uncle, Cousin, Grandparent, Great Grandparent, In-Laws, Sibling, Step Relative, Distant Relative. Genealogy - Heredity - Senior Citizen Stories.

Immediate Family is a defined group of relations, used in rules or laws to determine which members of a person's family are affected by those rules. It normally includes a person's parents, spouses, siblings, children. It can contain others connected by birth, adoption, marriage, civil partnership, or cohabitation, such as grandparents, great-grandparents, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, aunts, uncles, siblings-in-law, half-siblings, cousin, adopted children and step-parents/step-children, and cohabiting partners. Relative is a person related by blood or marriage.

Nuclear Family is a family group consisting of a pair of a woman and a man (adults) and their children (one or more), considering a time after the pair engagement, different than Family-in-law. It is in contrast to a single-parent family, to the larger extended family, and to a family with more than two parents.

Consanguinity is the property of being from the same kinship as another person. In that aspect, consanguinity is the quality of being descended from the same ancestor as another person.

Extended Family is a family that extends beyond the nuclear family, consisting of parents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, all living nearby or in the same household.

"Treat your family like friends and your friends like family." Orphans - Adoption - Mentoring.

Family relationships can be frustrating and stressful at times and can also be the most complicated of all relationships, but they can also be the most enjoyable and the most rewarding of all relationships. 

Stepfamily is a family where at least one parent has children that are not genetically related to the other spouse or partner. Either one parent may have children from a previous relationship. Children in a stepfamily may live with one biological parent, or they may live with each biological parent for a period of time. In addition, visitation rights mean that children in stepfamilies often have contact with both biological parents, even if they permanently live with only one. A child is referred to as the stepchild, stepdaughter or stepson of their biological parent's new spouse, and that person as the stepparent, stepfather or stepmother of the child. A stepfather is the husband of one's mother, and not one's biological father. A stepmother is the wife of one's father, and not one's biological mother. A step-grandmother is the wife of one's grandfather, and not one's biological grandmother. A step-grandfather is the husband of one's grandmother, and not one's biological grandfather. A step-uncle is the brother of one's mother's husband or father's wife, and not one's uncle. A step-aunt is the sister of one's mother's husband or father's wife, and not one's aunt. Similarly, a stepbrother is the son of a stepparent who one is not biologically related to. A stepsister is the daughter of a stepparent to whom one is not biologically related. A step-grandson is the son of a stepson or stepdaughter who one is not biologically related to. A step-granddaughter is the daughter of a stepson or stepdaughter who one is not biologically related. A step-cousin is the son or daughter of one's step-uncle or step-aunt who one is not biologically related. A parent's spouse of the same sex may also count as a stepparent.

Close-Knit Family is a family that stays connected or stays near each other and are bound together by intimate social or cultural ties or by close economic or political ties. A close family does things together and they have strong relationships even when their views differ. The phrase close-knit means that a fabric weave is tight or tightly woven and the stitches are very close together, which makes it stronger and more secure like a good knot.

Close is to draw near and come together and to be in close in proximity. To bring together all the elements or parts of things. To unite or bring into contact or bring together the edges of different things. To be at or within a short distance in space or time or having elements near each other. Not far away in position, relationship or time. Fitting closely but comfortably. A close relationship that is guarded, attentive, strict and thorough and confined to specific persons and relevance that is affectionate with protective acceptance. Close can also mean to shut something and stop something from being open and prevent something or obstruct something from entering or escaping.

Kinship is the web of social relationships that form an important part of the lives of all humans in all societies, although its exact meanings even within this discipline are often debated. Working Together.

Kin Selection is the evolutionary strategy that favours the reproductive success of an organism's relatives, even at a cost to the organism's own survival and reproduction. Kin altruism is altruistic behaviour whose evolution is driven by kin selection. Kin selection is an instance of inclusive fitness, which combines the number of offspring produced with the number an individual can ensure the production of by supporting others, such as siblings.

Sibling Rivalry is a type of competition or animosity among siblings, whether blood related or not. Siblings generally spend more time together during childhood than they do with parents. The sibling bond is often complicated and is influenced by factors such as parental treatment, birth order, personality, and people and experiences outside the family. Sibling rivalry is particularly intense when children are very close in age and of the same gender and/or where one or both children are intellectually gifted.

Birth Order refers to the order a child is born in their family; first-born and second-born are examples.

Favoritism (praise and punishment)

Sibling is one of two or more individuals having one or both parents in common. A male sibling is a brother, and a female sibling is a sister. In most societies throughout the world, siblings often grow up together, thereby facilitating the development of strong emotional bonds. The emotional bond between siblings is often complicated and is influenced by factors such as parental treatment, birth order, personality, and personal experiences outside the family. However, there are cases where siblings grow up in separate homes, in different environments. It is known that both nature and nurture figure in development; researchers are attempting to ascertain just which one plays the larger role.

Dysfunctional Family is a family in which conflict, misbehavior, and often child neglect or abuse on the part of individual parents occur continually and regularly, sometimes leading to other members of the family to mimic or mirror these bad behaviors and actions, sometimes without being aware of it. Children can grow up in such families with the misunderstanding that their experiences or their family is normal. Dysfunctional families are primarily a result of being undereducated and not having enough knowledge and skills that are needed to be good parents. This usually starts with the parents being exposed to dysfunctional parents of their own. Dysfunctional parents may emulate or over-correct their behaviors, depending on their own personal experiences that they had with their own dysfunctional parents. In some cases, a child-like parent will allow the dominant parent to abuse their children. This could give rise to codependent adults, and may also influence addictions to behaviors, substances or drugs. A dysfunctional parent may also be experiencing an untreated mental illness that was over looked, usually because observers had very little knowledge and skill with analyzing such behaviors, and they also had no good examples that would help them to make accurate comparisons with. Lacking Empathy.

Family Therapy is a branch of psychotherapy that works with families and couples in intimate relationships to nurture change and development. It tends to view change in terms of the systems of interaction between family members. It emphasizes family relationships as an important factor in psychological health. Family Counseling - American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.

Relationship Counseling is the process of counseling the parties of a human relationship in an effort to recognize, and to better manage or reconcile, troublesome differences and repeating patterns of stress upon the relationship. The relationship involved may be between members of a family or a couple (see also family therapy), employees or employers in a workplace, or between a professional and a client.

Marriage Counseling - Discernment Counseling - Love - Marriage

Controlling anger and having patience, tolerance, compassion and understanding are very useful tools in every relationship.

All relationships experience difficulties from time to time. Communication and perception are sometimes taken for granted. These differences in awareness makes most relationships very difficult to communicate effectively with some relationships being totally dysfunctional. Communication is a two-way street. Listen not just with your ears but with your mind and your heart together. There is always more then just the words that people speak and always more then just the actions that people take, there is always more to pay attention to. There's more then meets the ear, There's more then meets the eye. Listen to the words and not so much the tone in which they are spoken. You have to learn how to separate emotion from perception when listening. This is not to say that you should not use emotion when speaking because some people respond better to emotion, as long as you are sure what emotion to use.

Expect - Expectations

Expect is to believe that something is probable or likely to happen, even though there is no guarantee.

Expectation is what is perceived to be the most likely thing to happen. An expectation is a belief that is centered on one possible future outcome, that may or may not be realistic. The degree to which something is expected to be true can be expressed using fallacies. If something happens that is not all what was expected, it may bring surprise, happiness or disappointment. An expectation about the behavior or performance of another person can increase the chances of experiencing a less advantageous result that could give rise to the emotion of disappointment. 

Everyone makes the mistake of expecting more from the other person. And sometimes people expect more from the other person than they are willing to give to the other person, and on top of that, some people ignorantly believe that they shouldn't have to ask someone to do something, and that the other person should naturally know what to do. So instead of just talking to someone, the over expecting person will just be mad and angry at the person, for no reason, except for the selfish reason that they give themselves. This is more than just being stubborn and narrow-minded, the over expecting person ignorantly believes that other people are on this earth to serve them. They ignore the fact that other people have lives too. If you don't have the decency to reach out and see the other person as a human being with their own life experiences, then you're just using people, like an object that has no worth. And when someone doesn't like being used, you blame them and take it out on them, or worse, you suffer in bitter silence. All you have to do is talk to other people and be sincerely interested in who they are and what they do, and care about what they experience and what they feel. You have to listen. You have to have real conversations. You need to avoid bullshit small talk that's filled with crazy assumptions and opinions that offer no proof or give the other person a chance for a rebuttal. If we just get angry because we don't get what's expected from life or from other people, we are just destroying all forms of communication, internally and externally, and also destroying any chance of having a healthy conversation or a healthy relationship. This allows ignorance to control our moods and ignorance to ruin our lives. You have to learn how to communicate more and expect less. When we expect, we reject. If we expect respect, then we are being disrespectful. A question is much easier than just assuming that you know the answer or know the outcome. You have to stop doing the same thing or saying the same thing over and over again and expecting different results or outcomes. You have learn how to look for new ways of doing things and look for new ways of understanding things. Learning to adjust and adapt is learning to survive. Making changes and improvements is natural. Instead of just overreacting to a situation, take a moment for a careful examination of the situation and then apply the best logic and wisdom that you have before you take action or open your mouth. 

When you are always expectant, you will always experience more of the unexpected.

We make plans because we want to predict the future. Making plans is a process for preparing ourselves for a future event. When we only have expectations, that means we have no plans and we have no goals, we only have a wish, a wish that was never spoken, only assumed. We need to talk more and we need to listen more. But first, we need to stop pretending that we are talking and listening, and actually start having real conversations that are based on reality and not assumptions. No small talk, no question dodging, just expressing our understanding of things. No judgment, just objective observations. From there, we can start communicating more effectively and efficiently, and also be more aware and more thoughtful of each other.

Most people mean well, it’s just that sometimes people don’t know what they mean.

It's ok to expect the best, just as long as you are prepared for the worst.

Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend. Intrapersonal intelligence.

I don't judge people so much on the stupid things they say, but more by the smart things they do.

Assumptions - Biases - Privileges - Confidence Vulnerabilities - Pretending to Know - Wishful Thinking

Expectancy Theory proposes an individual will behave or act in a certain way because they are motivated to select a specific behavior over other behaviors due to what they expect the result of that selected behavior will be. In essence, the motivation of the behavior selection is determined by the desirability of the outcome. However, at the core of the theory is the cognitive process of how an individual processes the different motivational elements. This is done before making the ultimate choice. The outcome is not the sole determining factor in making the decision of how to behave.

You can't expect things to happen the way you want them to. You can plan things and you can work together with people on a project, and you can list all the responsibilities that each person needs to do that would accomplish the goals that were agreed to. But you can't expect that someone is going to live up to their side of the bargain. And you most definitely can't expect anything if you have never had a conversation or a discussion with someone. People are here for the same reason that you are, to live. People are not here to serve you. And everyone make mistakes. You can't pretend that people will always be focusing on you, especially when other people also have a life. Not being able to empathize makes it extremely difficult to connect with someone and understand someone. Shallow relationships creates an emptiness of meaningless interactions. Life is short enough without living a life that's shallow or meaningless.

I want to be able to live up to someone's expectations, but only if they can handle situations when they don't get what they expected. I expect understanding and honesty. I don't expect abuse and lies. I expect real conversations. I don't expect shallow observations.

It's not that I have high expectations for people, it's just that there are too many people who have such low expectations for other people. If you don't expect much, you don't get much. If you expect little common sense from other people, then you receive little common sense from other people. Low expectations causes a lot of problems when people downplay the incompetence and ignore the corruption, as if it's something that they can't control, when in fact they can control it, just as long as they address the problems and stop adding to the problems, which is easier said than done. People need more accurate ways to become informed. The current information system is failing people miserably. It's a travesty that so many people are so ill-informed, and the most damaging part is,  a lot of people don't even know that they are ill-informed. And when you try to explain to people that their understanding of things is inaccurate or flawed in some ways, they become all defensive and start blaming other people for the problems, the same problems that they help to cause. There are many ways that people can become more educated and more knowledgeable, so it's just a matter of finding the best technology and the best teaching methods. Everyone is a student for life, and if you drop out of the school of life, than you become a risk or a burden.

High Expectations is when you're over confident and you over estimate the probability of a good outcome because you are either biased or a wishful thinker. When you expect more out of people without making sure that the person understands what's expected, then you will get what's expected.

Low Expectations is when you expect very little from someone, that you receive very little from someone. So when they give you very little, you except it as being normal or what's expected, and you do this without knowing if your low expectations caused a low turnout, or caused a low quality outcome to happen. So who's accountable?

It's much more than just being patient and tolerant or empathetic, it's about understanding and knowing the fact that people sometimes have no idea what they are saying or doing. So you sometimes have to give people the benefit of the doubt and give people a break without being gullible or naive.

Set is a group of expectations that shape experience by making people especially sensitive to specific kinds of information. A perceptual set, also called perceptual expectancy, is a predisposition to perceive things in a certain way. Perceptual sets occur in all the different senses. They can be long term, such as a special sensitivity to hearing one's own name in a crowded room, or short term, as in the ease with which hungry people notice the smell of food. A mental set is a framework for thinking about a problem. It can be shaped by habit or by desire. Mental sets can make it easy to solve a class of problem, but attachment to the wrong mental set can inhibit problem-solving and creativity. Perception can be shaped by "top-down" processes such as drives and expectations. An effect of these factors is that people are particularly sensitive to perceive certain things, detecting them from weaker stimuli than otherwise. A simple demonstration of the effect involved very brief presentations of non-words such as "sael". Subjects who were told to expect words about animals read it as "seal", but others who were expecting boat-related words read it as "sail". Sets can be created by motivation and so can result in people interpreting ambiguous situations so that they see what they want to see. For instance, a person's experience of the events in a sports match can be biased if they strongly support one of the teams. In one experiment, students were allocated to pleasant or unpleasant tasks by a computer. They were told that either a number or a letter would flash on the screen to say whether they were going to taste an orange juice drink or an unpleasant-tasting health drink. In fact, an ambiguous figure was flashed on screen, which could either be read as the letter B or the number 13. When the letters were associated with the pleasant task, subjects were more likely to perceive a letter B, and when letters were associated with the unpleasant task they tended to perceive a number 13. Perceptual sets have been demonstrated in many social contexts. People who are primed to think of someone as "warm" are more likely to perceive a variety of positive characteristics in them, than if the word "warm" is replaced by "cold". When someone has a reputation for being funny, an audience are more likely to find them amusing. Individual's perceptual sets reflect their own personality traits. For example, people with an aggressive personality are quicker to correctly identify aggressive words or situations. Mental sets are subconscious tendencies to approach a problem in a particular way, either helping or interfering in the discovery of a solution. They are shaped by past experiences, habits, and, most importantly, culture. These sets also exist as parts of our cognitive processes although they do not always enter consciousness. This is demonstrated in the way bookkeepers can balance their book without being aware of using addition or subtraction. An inappropriate mental set hampers the solution of straightforward problems. This could happen if the set contains a false assumption or a belief that is not correct. For example, when people are asked, "When a United States plane carrying Canadian passengers crashes in international waters, where should the survivors be buried?" the phrasing of the question suggests that it is a problem of international law. People who interpret the statement with this mental set will miss the fact that survivors would not need to be buried. A specific form of mental set is functional fixedness, in which someone fails to see the variety of uses to which an object can be put. An example would be someone who needs a weight but fails to use an easily available hammer because their mental set is to think of a hammer as for a specific purpose.

Here in this 200 page website is most of the valuable knowledge and information that you will need in order to fully understand yourself and the world around you. Life has many challenges. The more you learn about life, and the more you understand why things happen, the more prepared you will be. Life has many dangers, but life also has many benefits. Life has many beautiful things, but Life also has many responsibilities. It's better to know things than to expect things.

Words that help explain why having Expectations is a false sense of security that is also unfair and illogical ....

Opinion is a personal belief or judgment that is not founded on proof or certainty.

Assume is to believe something to be true without verification or proof. Things Happen for a Reason.

Guess is an estimate based on little or no information. 

Accusation is an assertion that someone is guilty of a fault or an offence without clear evidence or proof. Innocent until proven guilty.

Argument - Debate - Siri Argument (youtube) 

Seeing the same thing does not always mean feeling the same thing. Perception needs to be mutual if we plan to see eye to eye.

Forgiveness - Happiness

You have to except the fact that some people will never change. It's really hard to change someone. So sometimes it's easier for you to make the change. And it's not really a change either, it's more of an adjustment. As relationships grow something's about people change and something's stay the same, and trying to Synchronize your changes with someone else's changes is not always that easy.

We hear what we expect to hear. Neuroscientists show that the entire auditory pathway represents sounds according to prior expectations. During the last 20 years, neuroscience research has revealed that the cerebral cortex constantly generates predictions on what will happen next, and that neurons in charge of sensory processing only encode the difference between our predictions and the actual reality. Predictive coding assumes that the brain is constantly generating predictions about how the physical world will look, sound, feel, and smell like in the next instant, and that neurons in charge of processing our senses save resources by representing only the differences between these predictions and the actual physical world. Given the importance that predictions have on daily life, impairments on how expectations are transmitted to the subcortical pathway could have profound repercussion in cognition.

How can a person be cruel, abusive and hurtful to their own family members and then be nice to strangers? Abuse Crimes.

Why do people act differently while in the presence of other people? Interpersonal intelligence.

Certain relationships are more challenging than others, but through each relationship we have an opportunity to grow and help others do the same. Every relationship teaches us something about loving, trusting, forgiving, setting boundaries, taking care of ourselves, and taking care of each other. Use the lessons that people teach you through your interactions, like patience, compassion, or courage. Share the beauty that is you with the people around you. Friendship.

Trust is something that you earn, trust is not something that you expect. I trust people all the time because most people are trust worthy. But even the most trusted people can make mistakes. I trust strangers, I just don't expect strangers to be honest. I have trust in my own judgment, even when I know that I can make mistakes.

True unselfishness is when you do something for someone else who hardly ever does the same thing for you, whether or not they unintentionally or intentionally did not return your kindness. Generosity is like an investment in Love, except that you never have to wait for a return from your investment in love, because you could never be short on love especially when you have the ability to create love anywhere you are. 

Love Yourself

The Truth does not have to Hurt. You can still speak the truth without offending someone or making a situation more complicated then it needs to be. Honesty needs the right words at the right time. Sincerity has responsibilities that you need to be aware of.

Trust is have confidence or faith in. Certainty based on past experience. The trait of believing in the honesty and reliability of others. Inclined to believe or confide readily. Trust - Loyalty - Faith.

Trust is having faith in a particular action, but it is still a calculated risk. This is not saying that you trust someone completely with everything they do. You might just trust their judgment for a particular action based on your previous experiences with that persons abilities in that particular field of knowledge. Someone can earn your trust but it does not guarantee success.

It’s like you are always leaving a door open for people to get under your skin so that they can irritate you. You have to label that door with this saying “The Level of Communication has Changed”. You have to learn to know when the level of communication has changed. Communicating on an emotional level or even a professional level is never a constant. You have to learn to listen to just the words. Do not listen to the tone that is being used to speak the words, just the words themselves. And do not pay attention to the timing of those words or their lack of relevance, just listen to the words and then calmly give a logical response. You have to Learn how to weigh the things that you are using to measure something. When you are judging someone it's really important to know what you are measuring this judgment with and how those things measure against what's important as well as what your priorities are. If you don't know where the line is, how will you know when you crossed the line?

You can dish it out but can't take it. When you get a taste of your own medicine, you have to be aware it, otherwise you will not learn anything. Complaining - Forgiveness - Anger Management - Praising - Awarding - Punishing.

Single Parents

Single Parent is a person bringing up a child or children without a partner or a person who lives with a child or children and who does not have a spouse or live-in partner. Reasons for becoming a single parent include divorce, break-up, abandonment, death of the other parent, childbirth by a single woman or single-person adoption. A single parent family is a family with children that is headed by a single parent.

Parenting - Multiracial

The typical American lives only 18 miles from their Mom.

Consequences of Fatherlessness - Fatherless Statistics.

24 million children in America, one out of every three, live in biological father-absent homes.

Dating - Finding the Right Person

How do you find the right person for you? How do you find Mrs. Right or Mr. Right? How do you build a healthy relationship? What questions should you ask someone in order to know them? Remember, it's not about finding the perfect person, it's about finding the person who is perfect for you.

Dating is a stage of the human mating process whereby two people meet socially, possibly as friends, or possibly with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or in marriage. It can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple. The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, may vary considerably from country to country, and may vary over time. While the term dating has several meanings, the most common sense is when two people are trying out a relationship and exploring whether they are compatible with each other. They may start out by going out together in public as a couple, that is, they are undergoing a trial period to assess mutual compatibility. Sometimes dating may refer to a couple who have already decided that they like each other, and are seeing each other on a regular basis, and who may or may not be having sexual relations. This period of courtship is sometimes seen as a precursor to an engagement or as a precursor to marriage, or maybe as just a precursor for a long and beautiful friendship.

Asking a women or a man out on a date. At the most appropriate moment available ask this question."I was just wondering, if you ever feel like going out on a date, I would be cool with that, and if you just want to stay friends, I'm also cool with that too." and then thank them for the answer either way. I just wanted to be sure, and not assume something or miss out on something.

You have to be emotionally secure, and not desperate. You have to be able to take care of yourself. You have to be able to handle rejection and not take things personally. You have to know yourself. You have to know your values and know the things that are really important to you. You have to have dreams and goals. You have to know the difference between what you want, and what you need in a partner. 

If you have different goals that take you in two different directions, you can easily grow apart. If you don't mind spending time apart from each other, then it may work. But if you expect more then you are willing to give yourself, then your selfishness will rip the relationship apart. The timing in your life when you meet someone, and level of knowledge and understanding that you have at that current time in your life, can make all the difference in the success of that relationship. You will always here people say, "if things were different, we may still be together." La La Land (2016 film) (wiki).

Most relationships usually start out with you being attracted to someone. Then you start talking with them and having conversations. Then you may hit it off with that someone, and you may start to enjoy someone's company. Then you may start feeling comfortable with someone, and you may start feeling comfortable with being yourself around them. Sometimes you may have no idea why you're attracted to someone. Is it superficial? Is it a sign? Or is there some kind of deeper connection envolved? Sometimes, you may find out why you're attracted to someone only after you have spent some time with them, and you were able to get to know them more and learn more about them. Sometimes attraction can be confused with infatuation. So until you get know more about someone, its hard to tell what your attraction to someone is really about. Attraction could sometimes be something special or spiritual, and sometimes attraction can be as simple as a curiosity or an interest. Remember, every relationship does not have to be a romantic relationship. And having expectations can ruin almost every relationship. So don't ever go by first impression's, and don't ever ignore behaviors that would indicate trouble, ignorance, instability, or dishonesty.

Relationship Questions. What are your likes and dislikes? What are your Interests? What are your long term goals? What are your short term goals? What are you doing now? When do you see yourself being ready to make a commitment? Are you still in the exploring stage? Do you understand mutual respect, trust, honesty, being supportive and having fairness and equality? Do you understand separate identities, good communication, and having a sense of playfulness and fondness?

What I Like About You - The Romantics (youtube) - What I like about you, you hold me tight, Tell me I'm the only one, wanna' come over tonight, yea. What I like about you, you really know how to dance, When you go up, down, jump around, think about true romance, yea. What I like about you, you keep me warm at night, Never wanna' let you go, know you make me feel alright, yea.

Dating Websites, Online Dating Services and Social Networks should be more about teaching people about relationships instead of exploiting their desires, or, exploiting their personal information for financial gain. We should be learning from our experiences and knowledge instead of using our experiences and knowledge just to attract a mate.

Matchmaking is the process of matching two or more people together based on each persons likes, dislikes, skills and needs. Anonymous Matching is a matchmaking method facilitated by computer databases, in which each user confidentially selects people they are interested in dating and the computer identifies and reports matches to pairs of users who share a mutual attraction. Collaboration and not just cohabitation.

Friendship - Marriage Vows - Weddings

Internet Relationship is a relationship between people who have met online, and in many cases know each other only via the Internet. Online relationships are similar in many ways to pen pal relationships. This relationship can be romantic, platonic, or even based on business affairs. An internet relationship or online relationship is generally sustained for a certain amount of time before being titled a relationship, just as in-person relationships. The major difference here is that an internet relationship is sustained via computer or online service, and the individuals in the relationship may or may not ever meet each other in person. Otherwise, the term is quite broad and can include relationships based upon text, video, audio, or even virtual character. This relationship can be between people in different regions, different countries, different sides of the world, or even people who reside in the same area but do not communicate in person.

Pen Pal are people who regularly write to each other, particularly via postal mail. Pen pals are usually strangers whose relationship is based primarily, or even solely, on their exchange of letters. Occasionally pen pals may already have a relationship that is not regularly conducted in person.

How Many Single People are there? 162 Million Females in the U.S. as of July 2014. The number of males was 157.0 million.

U.S. Map showing Density areas of Married People and Not Married People.

Clubbing in the Wild - VLDL (nature documentary parody) (youtube) - David Attenborough describes the dating rituals of humans from a naturalists point of view.

Courtship is the period in a couple's relationship which precedes their engagement and marriage, or establishment of an agreed relationship of a more enduring kind. During courtship, a couple get to know each other and decide if there will be an engagement or other such agreement. A courtship may be an informal and private matter between two people or may be a public affair, or a formal arrangement with family approval. Traditionally, in the case of a formal engagement, it has been perceived that it is the role of a male to actively "court" or "woo" a female, thus encouraging her to understand him and her receptiveness to a proposal of marriage.

"He's nice once you get to know him, which means, he's a dick, but you'll get use to it".

Cohabitation is an arrangement where two people who are not married live together. Such arrangements have become increasingly common in Western countries during the past few decades, being led by changing social views, especially regarding marriage, gender roles and religion. They often involve a romantic and/or sexually intimate relationship on a long-term or permanent basis. More broadly, the term cohabitation can mean any number of people living together. To "cohabit", in a broad sense, means to "coexist". The origin of the term comes from the mid 16th century, from the Latin cohabitare, from co- 'together' + habitare 'dwell'.

Concubinage is an interpersonal relationship in which a person engages in an ongoing sexual relationship with another person to whom he/she is not or cannot be married to in the full extent of the local meaning of marriage. The inability to marry may be due to multiple factors such as differences in social rank status, an existing marriage, religious prohibitions, professional ones (for example Roman soldiers) or a lack of recognition by appropriate authorities. The woman in such a relationship is referred to as a concubine.

Consummation is the first (or first officially credited) act of sexual intercourse between two people, either following their marriage to each other or after a prolonged sexual attraction. The definition of consummation usually refers to penile-vaginal sexual penetration, but some religious doctrines hold that there is an additional requirement that there must not be any contraception used.

Just because you find someone who shares the same interests does not necessarily mean that they want to share these interests with you. There's so much more to a relationship. It usually takes about 6 months to one year before you can actually know a person and understand them. And it's not just knowing who that person is but also knowing who you are when you're with that person. So in actuality you're Discovering two people at once. Why do people Change? 

Some People just don't have the same Awareness. Some People just don't have the same Knowledge. Some People just don't have the same Belief System. Some People just don't have the same Sense of Humor.

When people study the same subjects and seek similar careers, they have a tendency to marry each other.

Percentage of Men who Marry women who Share Majors (image) - Percentage of Women (image) - Percentage of People (image)

Everyone should have a relationship contract that explains their idea of what a perfect relationship should be. How much are you willing to compromise on each others differences? Business Proposal - Marriage.

Our Relationship Contracts - Pre Relationship Agreement

How to Have a Healthy Relationship

Mutual Love Agreement - Ask a Love Coach

Friendship - Love - Human Sexuality

TV Shows have Distorted Views on Dating - Parody of what Every Season of The Bachelor TV show is Like, Almost Too Accurate (youtube) - This show makes dating look shallow, and makes relationships look like irrelevant experiences that have little meaning.

Annoying Things Your Friends Say After A Break-Up (youtube)

Dating Advice - Dating Tips (youtube, 1949)

Beware of the Doghouse- Hilarious! (youtube)

Feeling Boxed In - Rejection

Every 13 seconds, someone in the United States files for Divorce.

Finding the right person for you is an incredible task, but it's not impossible. But you still have to understand that you will never know who the right person will be, or will you ever know if the right person you have now is actually the right person for you. So there's really no right person, only the best person that you have found so far. And don't waste your time thinking about the ' what if's ' or waste your time with regrets. Even though it's fun to imagine all the different scenarios that could have happened in your life, those dreams will never be productive or healthy because it's impossible to calculate what could have been when all the factors involved could never be known. So it's just a dream, and when it comes to dreams, you should choose your dreams wisely, dreams that have a higher percentage of coming true, or dreams that are not so centered around you.

Relationships can be very time consuming and also emotionally draining at times, along with distractions that seem to be never ending. This leaves a person with almost no time to progress and to develop as a person. People in relationships need personal time to themselves. Not just to relax, but to work on themselves and to keep learning and exploring. Every week should be a better more improved version of your previous self. Growing together instead of growing apart. And if you do end up not being right for each other because of certain differences in your goals, then at least the break up will be civil because each person had time to mature as individuals, instead of having no time to mature, which usually causes a messy breakup. All relationships will always have some risk involved. So when a relationship starts, it's a good idea to discuss the risks so that the risks are fully understood and that no one gets hurt or has any regrets.

Questions to Ask Someone when Trying to Know Someone on a Personal Level

What are you looking for in a relationship? What kind of man or women are you looking for? What are the key requirements and characteristics that a man or women should have that you feel are important? What is your type? Can you put yourself in someone else's shoes? Do you know how to have a meaningful conversation? How well do you know yourself? How well do you know other people?

Getting to truly know someone takes time, usually around 6 months. And during that time a person can change, so knowing a person can be difficult at times. Some people who have been together for years sometimes end up finding out that the person they thought they knew was actually lying about who they really were. Even if you do a psychological assessment on someone, you can still get some thing's wrong about that person. You can be people smart, but that doesn't say that you will personally know that person. Being able to put yourself in other peoples shoes does not say that you know them. Understanding the mind of another person takes skill and knowledge. And if getting to know yourself sometimes takes a life time, then how are you supposed to know someone when they don't fully know themselves? Communication is a skill that very few people fully understand. Don't assume and don't expect. Ask questions and know, instead of pretending that you know. Learning instead of yearning will always be more productive and a lot more healthier. You have to find me and know where I am and know where I'm coming from. And I have to find you and know where you are and know where you are coming from. You are not going to pretend to know me, and I am not going to pretend to know you. I will know you, and you will know me. Building trust is our goal.

Assessments - Examinations - Background Checks - TSA - Observation Flaws - Romance Scams

When you meet someone, and you are interested in knowing them and learning more about who they are, you should never have any expectations. If you have a chance to talk to someone, then make the best of it. And If you can create another opportunity to talk more, then that's great, if not, then that's fine too. Trying harder sometimes can make a difference, but being realistic and aware will always be a huge time saver. You can say that you're not ready for a relationship, but everyone knows, no one is ever really ready for a relationship, because relationships sometimes just happen. Mostly because humans are born to be explorers, including the journey's we take into a new relationships. There will always be Risks and dark Secrets. Just don't have any regrets. Learn from mistakes and keep going. The key is to always keep learning - Stay in touch.

Don't look for the perfect person, look for the person who is perfect for you. Will the person truly make you happy? Will you make the other person truly happy? Would your family approve of the relationship? Would your friends approve of the relationship? Would you still reach your goals and be able to still chase your dreams? Does the other person share your passions? Does the other person have the same interests as you? Does the other person share the same goals as you?

People want a partner who has emotional stability and maturity, someone who is educated and intelligent, someone dependable and trusting, someone who is sociable with good social status, someone in good health and who takes good health serious, someone who knows how to cook and and knows how to keep a house clean, someone who believes in good hygiene and looking their best, someone with mutual attraction and respect, someone with similar goals and similar values, someone who cares about the wellbeing of children and others in need.

I am looking for someone serious, but I'm also interested in meeting nice people and enjoying socializing without having any expectations. I want to share my life with someone, but it's not a top priority right now because my life is complicated, and I have some really big goals that I need to accomplish. I'm not saying no to women, I'm just not chasing them like I awkwardly did in my youth. So I'm definitely looking forward to love, but I'm also committed to my goals. So what's your story?

Are you the jealous type? Do you feel insecure when the attention of your mate is not on you? Do you jump to conclusions or make assumptions about your mate? Are you afraid to ask questions in fear that you might offend your mate or give them the wrong impression? Can you start a conversation without turning it into an argument? Can you talk freely and openly without being condescending or presumptuous? Do you know how to compromise? Can you listen to someone speaking without being distracted or thinking to yourself about what you want to say next? Could you honestly say that you don't play head games? Do you respect yourself? Do you respect others? Are you compassionate? I understand that people get second thoughts and no longer want to be in a intimate relationship with the person they're with, so the two questions are, could you handle rejection? And could you let someone down easy without hurting their feelings or insulting them? Last question, do you find pleasure in acting like an a*shole? Hopefully not, because it's sad to know that there are people in the world who actually enjoy being an as*hole and believe that it's OK to be a lying scumbag. Of course the reason is ignorance, but try explaining that to an ignorant person. (no, no, no, no, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, no). Our answers match, so you passed the first round of questioning. Now let's see how we do on the second round of questions.

There will always be more questions to ask then what is listed below. Avoiding Trick Questions.

Note: You really have to be good at analyzing the answers to these questions below. And the answers may not be that accurate, because sometimes people don't know the truth, or even know enough about the question to accurately answer it. So the first answer may not be the same answer later on, especially after the person had time to think about the question a little more. These questions may help you to understand a little about someone, but this is in no way a judgment of that person, because only an open debate and discussion could accurately understand our views and our perceptions, which is totally related to what we know now, and not related to what we will learn and know in the future. Because the more we learn, the more we can understand ourselves and the more we can understand other people, but that's only if you learn the right things at the right time. Think of these questions as a starting point of a conversation, don't think of these questions as an interview, or an assessment, or a judgment, or some sort of measurement.

Observation Flaws and Effects - Personality Testing - Intervention

"When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself." "Some people say that you never have a second chance for a first impression. But sometimes you do."

Set I
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? Why?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way? Why?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a "perfect" day for you? Why?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else? Why?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want? Why?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common?
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful? Why?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? Why?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? Why?

Set II
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III
25. Make three true "we" statements each. For instance, "We are both in this room feeling ... "
26. Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... "
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. Do you have a good sense of humor? What subject is too serious to be joked about? Are dirty jokes off-limits?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin (SAGE) - Authors: Arthur Aron (SUNY Stony Brook), Edward Melinat (California Graduate School of Family Psychology), Elaine N. Aron (SUNY Stony Brook), Robert Darrin Vallone (University of California, Santa Cruz), Renee J. Bator (Arizona State University). 

If You Like Pina Coladas - Jimmy Bufett (youtube)

More Questions you May want to Ask. Choose the questions that you want to ask that you believe are the most important to you.

How would your friends describe you?
Tell me one thing you really like about yourself?
What is one thing you’d like to change about yourself?
How would you like people to remember you?
What’s your story?
Are you working on something that really excites you?
What is a hidden talent of yours very few people know about?
What global issue do you wish you could solve?
What place have you always wanted to travel to?
Who inspires you? Who do you aspire to be like?
Do you believe in something that very few others agree with?
What is one of your guilty pleasures?
What do you like to do outside of work?
If you could be a professional athlete, what sport would you play?
If you were given a time machine, what time period would you go to?
If you only had two weeks to live, what would you do?
If you were given $1 million but had to spend it in one day, how would you spend it?
If you could put up a billboard, where would you put it, and what would it say?
If a genie granted you three wishes, what would they be?
What is one skill you feel every person should have?
What is one goal you’d like to accomplish during your lifetime?

Personal Questions
What is your mother’s maiden name?
Where were you born?
What color are your eyes?
What is one place you desperately want to travel to?
What do they regret about your family life?
Do you like celebrating your birthday?
Do you shower in the morning or at night?
Have you ever voted? Why?
What's your political affiliation? Why?
Are you an activist? Why?
Is there a certain nickname you absolutely hate to be called?
Where is your family from?
Is your family religious? What religion?
Do you believe in God?
Do you want a cat or a dog?
Are you a clean freak? Are you organized?
Can you handle temperatures and humidity?
Which friend have you known the longest?
Who is your closest friend currently?
What childhood memory do you always bring up?
Do they think of yourself as extroverted or introverted?
Do other people think of you as extroverted or introverted?
Do you practice safe sex?
Do you have any diseases?
Do you get sick a lot or do you get infections easy?
How old were you when they lost their virginity?
What are your porn preferences?
What’s your favorite sex position?
Do you like foreplay?
What is the one thing that gets you off every time?
In an ideal world, how many times a week would you want to have sex?
What is your ideal date night?
Do you have any issues in your genetic history?
Do you have children? Do you want children?
If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
What do you think of long term commitments, marriage, etc.?
Are you a light sleeper?
Do you like to cuddle while they sleep?
Which celebrity do you find most attractive?
How do you wind down at the end of a long day?
Would you ever want to live abroad?
Do you still have their wisdom teeth?
What do you like on pizza?
What is your favorite meal?
What is your go-to drink order?
What type of chocolate do you prefer?
Do you have condiment/hot sauce preferences?
What foods can you absolutely not stand?
How do you take in your coffee?
Do you have severe allergies and what are they?
If they went to college, what did you study?
Do you like Learning?
Do you like reading?
What are you currently reading?
Have you read any good books lately?
Do you like to watch movies?
What is your favorite movie?
What type of movies do you like? Drama, comedy, science fiction, action, documentary?
Do you enjoy music? What's your favorite Type of Music?
Are you conscious about saving money?
What's more important, cost, value or price?
Can you accurately measure cost and value to know what counts?
What is the one thing you could say to make them start arguing with you?
What is your astrological sign?
What is your favorite season?
What amount of Public Display of affection are you comfortable with?
How often do you use social media?
Do you enjoy socializing?
Do you have any bad Habits? Drinking Alcohol? Pornography? Junk Food? Technology? Drugs?
Are you confrontational? What makes you insanely impatient?
Do you complain a lot? Are you an optimist or a pessimist?
What do you worry about in the future?
If today was your last day what would you do?
Do you have regrets? Can you forgive?
Are you able to change and adapt?
What is your go-to form of exercise?
Do you like outdoor activities? Are you Adventurous?
Do you like camping? Do you Like riding a Bicycle? Do you like walking and hiking?

Questions about Work
What type of work do you do?
What business are you in?
What do you like about your job?
What’s your least favorite part of their current job?
What is your dream job? Resume.
Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
How did you get started in this kind of work?
What Worker Qualities do you have? What are your Work Ethics?
What do you plan to do when you can no longer do your job?

Philosophical Questions
You can learn so much about someone if you hear even a bit about their journey instead of focusing exclusively on the here and now. And when people start telling their story, things can really get interesting.

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
Which is worse, failing or never trying?
If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?

You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?

Would you break the law to save a loved one?
Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
Why are you? Identity.
Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
What are you most grateful for?
Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
Is is possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
Has your greatest fear ever come true?
Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?
What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?
At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
If not now, then when?
If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?

In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?

How well do you know your partner? Take our quiz to find out

Background Checks - Competency

Observation Flaws - Mistaken Identity

Be Nice. Talk nicely and listen compassionately with deep concern and appreciation for the other person. Do something nice for the other person. Actions sometimes speak louder then words, and gifts are symbolic of love, affection and appreciation. And don't just think about material gifts, there are gifts that come from kind gestures, or gifts that come from giving someone your full attention.

Showing affection through physical touch has many benefits, like a hug, a handshake, a gentle hand on the shoulder, or even a message. But only with consent.

Some relationship questions are not that glamorous or romantic, it's kind of like a business proposal.

How to Write a Business Proposal: Begin with a title page. Create a table of contents. Explain your why with an executive summary. State the problem or need. Propose a solution. Share your qualifications. Include pricing options. Clarify your terms and conditions. Include a space for signatures to document agreement.

Business Partner is a commercial entity with which another commercial entity has some form of alliance. This relationship may be a contractual, exclusive bond in which both entities commit not to ally with third parties. Alternatively, it may be a very loose arrangement designed largely to impress customers and competitors with the size of the network the business partners belong to. Marriage.











"Everyone who's ever loved you was wrong."

"I don't care what people say about you. You're alright."

"Somewhere out there a tree is working very hard to replace the oxygen you consume. Now go apologize to it."

Husband says to his wife "Darling, why are you wearing your wedding ring on the wrong finger?" His wife then replies, "Because I married the wrong man." Rejection.

Wife says to her husband, "What are you doing?" Husband replies, "Nothing". Then his wife replies "But you have been reading our marriage certificate for an hour, so you must be doing something?" Husband replies, "I was looking for an expiration date."

Julie Andrews - Getting to know you (youtube)
It's a very ancient saying
But a true and honest thought
That if you become a teacher
By your pupils you'll be taught
As a teacher I've been learning
You'll forgive me if I boast
And I've now become an expert
On the subject I like most
Getting to know you
Getting to know you
Getting to know all about you
Getting to like you
Getting to hope you like me
Getting to know you
Putting it my way
But nicely
You are precisely
My cup of tea
Getting to know you
Getting to know all about you
Getting to like you
Getting to hope you like me
Getting to know you
Putting it my way
But nicely
You are precisely
My cup of tea
Getting to know you
Getting to feel free and easy
When I am with you
Getting to know what to say
Haven't you noticed
Suddenly I'm bright and breezy?
Because of all the beautiful and new
Things I'm learning about you
Day by day
Getting to know you
Getting to feel free and easy
When I am with you
Getting to know what to say
Haven't you noticed
Suddenly I'm bright and breezy?
Because of all the beautiful and new
Things I'm learning about you
Day by day

Personal Experiences with Dating

My first kiss was when I was 12 years old in 1972. My girl friend kiss me to say good bye, and then I rode my mini-bike home. And on the way home, I felt so much love that I had an out of body experience. I was floating in the air around 50 feet above myself, and I was seeing myself riding my mini-bike down the street, I was looking down at my body and my body had know idea that I was no longer in my body, so my body was temporally on its own. This experience has never left me. It was so amazing. There are no words that can accurately describe that feeling I had that day. One weird thing that happened is that when I was riding under a bridge, and I was seeing right through the bridge when I was floating above myself. I could see myself riding under the bridge as if the bridge had disappeared. It seems my connection to myself was stronger than physical matter, or that physical matter is more fluid when we no longer possess the physical self? I have had amazing flying dreams before, but this dream was when I was awake, and I was actually engaged in a physical activity. This is a different type of dream. All I can say is "that was one amazing kiss."

"Though I have experienced Love at first sight many times and have floated in the air from a single kiss, I have learned over time to separate my dreams from reality, no matter how beautiful those moments were and how those memories still please me."

"I had tall girlfriends, short girlfriends, skinny girlfriends and large girlfriends. And the one thing I learned is that all women are incredible in their own way. I have been in love so many times, and most of the women that I fell in love with, I never knew or I never met. And there were times when a women loved me, but I couldn't tell or I couldn't see the signs. So love is never a guarantee. If I knew how to communicate more effectively, love could have been more of a reality than a fantasy."

"I have been in love with the same women since the beginning of time. But I lost touch with her and I have not seen her for years. I know she's still around because I never stop feeling her presence. I just don't know where she is now, and I wonder who is she now? Is she the same women I fell in love with? I know that I have changed and I know that have that grown over the years, so I wonder if her changes match mine. I hope that we both learned the same things. I feel its time for us to be together again. I know She's close. And I also know that time is irrelevant. I'm here, give me a sign."

Sometimes Feeling Boxed In. I knew I had a lot of growing up to do, but I found it hard to grow up when I was around women, and I also found it totally impossible to grow up just hanging around with your buddies. But I learned that the feeling I had like I was being boxed in was of my own making. So I had to learn how to not build walls and learn how to build bridges instead of burning bridges.

Don't Fence Me In - Gene Autry (youtube) - Oh, give me land, lots of land under starry skies above, Don't fence me in.
Let me ride through the wide open country that I love, Don't fence me in.

"Why does having a girlfriend give you a false sense of security, and a false sense of pride or social acceptance?"

"Marriage or relationships, no matter how loving, can still become a prison."

Selena Gomez - Same Old Love (youtube)

I would say I love you more often, but I'm not sure who you are? It's not that I don't love you, because I do love you. It's that when I say I love you to someone, I want them to be sure what part of them I love. I certainly don't love everything about you, but I also don't love everything about me either, because no one is perfect. So please remember that love is always there, but don't expect love to always be there for you, because love needs love too. And reaching out is the same as reaching in. For love to truly connect it must come from both sides, without any expectations or conditions. Love is pure, and in order for love to flourish you must agree to be pure with love. Positive or Good Attracts Good, and Negative Repeals Positive or Good. That's one of the main reasons why loving yourself and forgiving yourself is important. This is way beyond the law of attraction, this is about being good because you know what being good is and you have learned how being good benefits others. This is not about being good so that other people like you, that's false advertising, Misleading, Deceptive, Manipulative and Fake. True Love will never be found through coercion, force or pressure. And rejection is not about someone rejecting love, it's just not excepting the deliverer. So find another way to deliver your message of love or find someone else who can deliver this love. If you can't do either then put this refusal aside for another time when more information and knowledge is learned.

I know from my experiences with women, that there were times when I enjoyed the sex more then my girlfriends did. That was not intentional of course, it was mostly from my lack of experience and the fact that I was an idiot, and also that some women did not take the time to show you how to please them, but maybe they too didn't know how to explain it. Pleasing a women as much as she pleases me is all I ever wanted. I want my girlfriend to enjoy sex as much as I do. A women who has sex with you knowing that she will not enjoy that sexual encounter, is either a very generous and loving women, or a women who wants some kind of compensation for her services. I see nothing wrong with either one as long as the relationship is honest and not exploitive in any way. Women are like Gods to me. Women are the giver of life, the guardians of our children, the loving companionship of man. If a women is not a gift from God, she is certainly the most loved creation of all Gods creatures.

Dating - I'm was drowning in my own Insecurities. 

"Sex is usually better when you're in Love when compared to Sex without Love, and Love at First Sight, is usually just temporary."

There were a lot of times in my life where I have stopped dating because I believed that the women I dated were killing me. But as time went on I realized that there were a lot of other things in my life that were killing me besides women. I made a lot of bad choices, and women were not to blame. I was not well informed or very knowledgeable. It took me a long time to learn this so I'm lucky that I didn't stop learning and I'm glad that I didn't give up, because I know, as I have always known, that somewhere out there in the world, there's the right women for me. And I don't feel that I waited to long or feel like I wasted time, because it took as long as what was needed. It was more then believing that "Good things come to those who wait" or, "Don't rush into things", or "Be carful what you wish for", it was more about "it is what it is", my fate, my destiny, my life, my love. I can't say that I'm totally ready for the women of my dreams, but I'm more ready now then I ever was. Plus I'm a lot more mature, I'm more secure and definitely a lot more loving now then I ever was.

One Night Stand is where loneliness, hornyness and attraction meets opportunity. It's not a well thought out plan.

Madonna - Beautiful Stranger (youtube)
Strangers in The Night - Frank Sinatra (youtube)
Mungo Jerry - In the Summertime (youtube)
Regina Spektor-Dance Anthem of The 80's +Lyrics (youtube)
Alvvays - In Undertow (youtube)
Something About You - Level 42 (youtube)

It's important to grow and mature as individuals and as a couple. Sometimes we grow apart. And sometimes we just figure out and realize who we are and what kind of person we would like to have as a partner. That is why being open and honest is important. But you have to be sure how accurate your honesty is and if being open about yourself will be understood the way you intend. We want people to change and we also want people to stay the same in some ways. The things that we first love about a person are the things we hope will never change. But you first have to accurately define those key characteristics that we love about someone, because what we think is them, might just be a smaller part of a much bigger picture of who they are.

Don't Change - INXS (youtube)
She Sells Sanctuary - The Cult (youtube)

Can you have sex and enjoy it without having an emotional connection with that person? Yes some people do it all the time, not to say that it's for everyone, or that it's without risk, it's just saying that it's not that unusual. - Tom Jones (youtube)

I don't have any regrets, what I have are lessons learned and some incredible experiences. And the beauty of it is, I can share all my experiences and knowledge and pass it on. There is nothing more valuable then sharing what you have learned, after all, my life benefited in many ways from people in the past and present who also took the time and effort to share their experiences and knowledge, a lot of which also improved the life of millions. Not to say that we are there yet, but at least now we can finally see a better future. And as we get closer, the more defined our future will become. (12 / 9 / 2013).

Horizon is the range of interest or activity that can be anticipated. New Age.

Another reason for going solo many times in my life was at times I didn't want people following me because I had no idea where I was going. I also didn't want to keep any of my girls friends from having the kind of life that they were hoping for. I also didn't want to follow other people either, because that would make it hard for me to figure out where I was personally going. Even if we agreed to find out together, that would still mean that we might eventually be headed in different directions any way. I also did not want to influence anyone unless I was positively sure, and I was wasn't sure of a lot of things. But anyway, I'm not sure if it was the easy way or the only way, but I am sure now, that it was the right way for me. And at 53 I'm still searching, not for that perfect women, just a women who's perfect for me, and I perfect for her. (4/5/14). 

Fergie - Big Girls Don't Cry (Personal) (youtube)
Donnie Iris - Ah Leah (youtube)

I didn't plan to have kids, but maybe if I found the right women I may have, so It just turned out that way. I don't regret not having children or am I ever saddened by it. I just hope that I can do enough things that would make big differences in the world, something that would benefit all children, and I'm already been working on that, BK101. Would I ever get married? of course, but that women would have to be incredibly intelligent and mentally and physically strong. I'm not looking for my equal, I'm just looking for a women who never stops learning, a women who loves to ask the right questions, a women who's not afraid to make mistakes, a women who's passionate about improving education, a women who can look you in the eyes and say 'I'm with you till the end'. 

"I always dream of having a wonderful relationship with a women, but I know that dreams are always better then reality. So I have to start learning how to create a wonderful relationship, instead of just dreaming about having one."

I have as much to offer a women as a women has to offer me, meaning, if you define all the important qualities that you know are valuable, you'll find that men and women will always share similar qualities. The problem is we don't always share those similar qualities at the same time, or in the same way Our freedom has made it possible for us to be out of sync, but out of sync should not mean out of touch. If we improve this imperfection in our thinking, we'll have a lot more love in our relationships, and a lot more time to enjoy life then ever before. Sync up and get in touch.

My priorities have changed, a lot of things are on hold now.

"I want to make a women feel good, I want her to feel special, I want a women to feel loved and to feel beautiful, but if not, then maybe we would be better off being just friends than lovers."

According to a survey of adults aged 20 to 59, women have an average of 4 sex partners during their lifetime; men have an average of 7.

I found a photo of myself on a Dating Website that I never joined. I guess my photo was used to trick women into joining. Even when I asked the dating website to remove the photo, it still took months, and I'm not sure if my photo is still being used.

I was thinking about becoming a Professional Fake Boy Friend so I could help women stay single while avoiding the pressures and constant nagging from family and friends for them to get married and to start a family. But now I'm too old.

Knowing that I can Still Fall in Love

I'm just glad that I'm still falling in love after all these years. But of course these days I'm only falling in love from a distance. Getting close to a women is still complicated these days. But there's a few different reasons for being single these days. And one of the reasons is that I'm not even trying right now. But that's just one of the reasons. The other reason is that I'm waiting for my life to be a little bit more stable. But I know that I shouldn't be waiting for things to be perfect in my life, because things will never will be totally perfect in my life. Besides, if the women I want can't handle the imperfections of my life as they are now, then she would most likely never handle the tough times. In sickness or in health, good times or bad times, I don't want a party pooper in my life. And I could also say that I have higher priorities in my life right now. But one of the things that I have been learning lately is that I should never over look the benefits of having a women in my life. Because finding the time to look for love, can also be saving time. But I don't want to waste time with someone. I want to make time with someone, someone special. I will know who my love is when I find her. And I know that falling in love will lead me to her, but I will never be able to reach her if the love that she has for me is not the same love that I have for her. I'm not picky, I'm just following my heart. And I know that my heart will lead me to her, either in this life or the next. So I will never give up. Time is not that all I have, I also have Love.

Foolish Games - Jewel (youtube)
Please Don't Leave Me - Pink (youtube)
Stay (Rihanna song) (youtube)
Wicked Game - Chris Isaak (youtube) - No, I don't want to fall in love with you (this girl is only gonna break your heart), Nobody loves no one.

I miss the excitement of dating someone new, even though the process from just dating to intimacy was sometimes awkward. The fear of having a bad sexual experience made me a little nervous sometimes, and a little self conscious and paranoid, which makes it difficult to have a good sexual experience under those conditions. But when I look back, I'm glad that some sexual experiences never happened, because if they were good, they may have made me be with the wrong person. Sometimes I feel like I'm waiting for God to bring the women of my dreams, but maybe God knows it's not the right time. I wanted to be with someone, but the dating process seemed unnatural. I'm not good at finding the right women. I don't want to be with someone if I just end up breaking up with her. I don't want to hurt someone, because I know how painful it is to have someone breaking up with you. I would rather have someone break up with me then to have to break up with someone.

Some people get lucky and find the right person the first time they meet someone. Others have multiple relationships before they find the right person. What ever you do, don't let the fear of being alone force you into a relationship that's not right for you. Being single again after an unfavorable relationship always feels awesome, almost as awesome as finding a new girlfriend, almost.

"While you’re busy looking for the perfect person, you’ll probably miss the imperfect person who could make you perfectly happy."

"Don't look for the perfect person, look for someone who is perfect for you."

"We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love." (Tom Robbins)

"Love isn't finding a perfect person. It's seeing an imperfect person perfectly." (Sam Keen)

"Don’t choose the one who is beautiful to the world, choose the one who makes your world beautiful."

Halo - Gary Lightbody (youtube)
Bread It Don't Matter to Me (youtube)
Billy Joel - She's Always a Women to Me (youtube)
Amerie - 1 Thing (youtube)
Belinda Carlisle - Mad About You (youtube)
Leonard Cohen - Suzanne (youtube)
Let's Get It On - Marvin Gaye (youtube)
Barry White - Can't Get Enough Of Your Love Baby (youtube)

The TOADIES Possum Kingdom - Make up your Mind (youtube)

ZAYN, 'Pillowtalk (youtube) Love doesn't have to be a Battlefield. 

Love Is A Battlefield - Pat Benatar

Linda Maria Ronstadt tells you how to let someone down easy and tell them that you're not interested, it's not you, it's me. You can't see the forest for the trees, meaning you can't see the whole situation clearly because you're looking too closely at small details, or, you can't fully understand the forest just by looking at the trees. "You and I travel to the beat of a diff'rent drum. Oh, can't you tell by the way I run, Ev'ry time you make eyes at me. Wo oh. You cry and you moan and say it will work out. But honey child I've got my doubts. You can't see the forest for the trees. Oh, don't get me wrong. It's not that I'm knockin'. It's just that I'm not in the market, For a girl who wants to love only me. Yes, and I ain't sayin' you ain't pretty. All I'm sayin's I'm not ready for any person, Place or thing to try and pull the reins in on me. So Goodbye, I'll be leavin'. I see no sense in the cryin' and grievin'. We'll both live a lot longer if you live without me."

Kids On: HOW TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE (S2, Episode 4) (youtube)

Love Songs - Music Knowledge

I remember when I had a girl friend when I was young, it made some of my male friendships more complicated. Because now you have something to do that I can't share with them. I have done this to friends, and I have also had friends do this to me. It sucks, but it shouldn't. The way you handle new aspects of a relationship is to express the awkwardness and separation anxiety before they get misunderstood. There will be new rules, and some things will not be the same. Men will be a little paranoid of what the new girl friend will think, so they will act differently, while their friends will act the same way. You want a girlfriend who will not change the relationships with your male friends, but you also want a girlfriend who will voice her opinion, because she could make you see something that you might not be aware of. You can't treat your girl friend like one of the guys. But why would you treat anyone differently? You don't want to say certain things to your girlfriend, but why do you say certain things with your male friends? You have to question whether these differences in behavior are healthy. To have a good relationship is to have good teamwork, each person looking out for the other. The more we learn about relationships, the easier they become, and the more beneficial they will be.

"I'm not really single, I'm kind of in a long distance relationship with my future girl friend. So she technically doesn't exist yet, but I'm hoping to change that soon."

Related Subjects - Interpersonal intelligence (people smart) - Acting - Body Language - Facial Expressions - Micro-Expressions - TSA - when observations are flawed - Intrapersonal intelligence - Self Smart - Personalities - Who Am I - Identify - Emotions - Happiness - Stress - Reactions to Stress - Lying - Egos - Contempt - Introvert - Extravert - Single (solitude is a skill) - The Summer of Love - I love you - Be Pure and Be Good - Don't be Fake.

Marriage - Weddings

Wedding is a ceremony where two people are united in marriage. Wedding traditions and customs vary greatly between cultures, ethnic groups, religions, countries, and social classes. Most wedding ceremonies involve an exchange of marriage vows by the couple, presentation of a gift (offering, ring(s), symbolic item, flowers, money), and a public proclamation of marriage by an authority figure. Special wedding garments are often worn, and the ceremony is sometimes followed by a wedding reception. Music, poetry, prayers or readings from religious texts or literature are also commonly incorporated into the ceremony.

Declaration of Marriage "By the power vested in me by the State of ______, I now pronounce you husband and wife. (Traditional)______,"You may kiss your ...

Parties who do not wish to be married by solemnization (a ceremony performed by a judge, religious official or other officiant) may prepare and file a Declaration of Marriage with the Clerk of District Court office and be recognized as being legally married.

Solemnization refers to the performance of a formal marriage ceremony before witnesses. It is the public performance of a sacrament or solemn ceremony with all appropriate rituals.

Marriage also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights, promises and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws, as well as society in general. The definition of marriage varies according to different cultures, but it is principally an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged. In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity. When defined broadly, marriage is considered a cultural universal. Forced Marriage.

Marriage Law refers to the legal requirements that determine the validity of a marriage, and which vary considerably among countries. (marriage is like a contract, if you don't fully understand the fine print, then don't get married. Consent should only happen when you're knowledgeable enough to understand the implications.)

Common Law Marriage is a legal framework in a limited number of jurisdictions where a couple is legally considered married after 7 Years together, without that couple having formally registered their relation as a civil or religious marriage. (informal marriage, marriage by habit and repute, or marriage in fact).

Human Mating Strategies are a set of behaviors used by individuals to select, attract, and retain mates. Mating strategies overlap with reproductive strategies, which encompass a broader set of behaviors involving the timing of reproduction and the trade-off between quantity and quality of offspring. Relative to those of other animals, human mating strategies are unique in their relationship with cultural variables such as the institution of marriage. Humans may seek out individuals with the intention of forming a long-term intimate relationship, marriage, casual relationship, or friendship. The human desire for companionship is one of the strongest human drives. It is an innate feature of human nature and may be related to the sex drive. The human mating process encompasses the social and cultural processes whereby one person may meet another to assess suitability, the courtship process and the process of forming an interpersonal relationship. Commonalities, however, can be found between humans and nonhuman animals in mating behavior.

Partner is a person's partner in marriage. An associate in an activity, endeavor or sphere of common interest. A person who is a member of a partnership. Better Half is a person's partner in marriage.

Partnership is an arrangement where parties, known as business partners, agree to cooperate to advance their mutual interests. The partners in a partnership may be individuals, businesses, interest-based organizations, schools, governments or combinations. Organizations may partner to increase the likelihood of each achieving their mission and to amplify their reach. A partnership may result in issuing and holding equity or may be only governed by a contract.

Prenuptial Agreement is a written contract entered into by a couple prior to marriage or a civil union that enables them to select and control many of the legal rights they acquire upon marrying, and what happens when their marriage eventually ends by death or divorce. Couples enter into a written prenuptial agreement to supersede many of the default marital laws that would otherwise apply in the event of divorce, such as the laws that govern the division of property and retirement benefits and savings, and the right to seek alimony (spousal support) with agreed-upon terms that provide certainty and clarify their marital rights. A premarital agreement may also contain waivers of a surviving spouse’s right to claim an elective share of the estate of the deceased spouse.

Marriage License is a document issued, either by a church or state authority, authorizing a couple to marry. The procedure for obtaining a license varies between countries and has changed over time. Marriage licenses began to be issued in the Middle Ages, to permit a marriage which would otherwise be illegal (for instance, if the necessary period of notice for the marriage had not been given). Today, they are a legal requirement in some jurisdictions and may also serve as the record of the marriage itself, if signed by the couple and witnessed. In other jurisdictions, a license is not required. In some jurisdictions, a "pardon" can be obtained for marrying without a license, and in some jurisdictions, common-law marriages and marriage by cohabitation and representation are also recognized. These do not require a marriage license. There are also some jurisdictions where marriage licenses do not exist at all and a marriage certificate is given to the couple after the marriage ceremony had taken place. Article 16 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights declares that "Men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have the right to marry and to found a family. They are entitled to equal rights as to marriage, during marriage and at its dissolution. Marriage shall be entered into only with the free and full consent of the intending spouses.

Supporting traditional marriage is a good thing. But when you are against equality and freedom, then you're a contradiction and a hypocrite and your ignorance becomes a threat to society. This is why discrimination is illegal.

Same-Sex Marriage is marriage between people of the same sex, either as a secular civil ceremony or in a religious setting. The term marriage equality refers to a political status in which same-sex marriage and opposite-sex marriage are considered legally equal.

Same-Sex Relationship is a relationship between persons of the same sex and can take many forms, from romantic and sexual, to non-romantic homosocially-close relationships. The term is primarily associated with gay and lesbian relationships. Same-sex marriage refers to the institutionalized recognition of such relationships in the form of a marriage; civil unions may exist in countries where same-sex marriage does not. The term same-sex relationship is not strictly related to the sexual orientation of the participants. As people of any orientation may participate in same-sex relationships (particularly depending on the legal, social and scientific definition of sex, that often erases the birth gender assignment-diverging identities of binary and genderqueer/non-binary trans people and those of ethnic genders alike), some activists claim that referring to a same-sex relationship as a "gay relationship" or a "lesbian relationship" is a form of bisexual erasure.

Fornication is consensual sexual intercourse between two people not married to each other.

Interracial Marriage is a form of marriage outside a specific social group (exogamy) involving spouses who belong to different socially-defined races or racialized ethnicities. It became legal in the entire United States in 1967 when the Supreme Court of the United States ruled in the case Loving v. Virginia that race-based restrictions on marriages violated the Equal Protection Clause of the United States Constitution. Multi-Racial - Racism.

Exogamy is a social arrangement where marriage is allowed only outside a social group. The social groups define the scope and extent of exogamy, and the rules and enforcement mechanisms that ensure its continuity. In social studies, exogamy is viewed as a combination of two related aspects: biological and cultural. Biological exogamy is marriage of nonblood-related beings, regulated by forms of incest law. A form of exogamy is dual exogamy, in which two groups engage in continual wife exchange. Cultural exogamy is marrying outside a specific cultural group; the opposite being endogamy, marriage within a social group.

Endogamy is the practice of marrying within a specific social group, caste or ethnic group, rejecting those from others as unsuitable for marriage or other close personal relationships.

Marital Conversion is religious conversion upon marriage, either as a conciliatory act, or a mandated requirement according to a particular religious belief. Endogamous religious cultures may have certain opposition to interfaith marriage and ethnic assimilation, and may assert prohibitions against the conversion ("marrying out") of one their own claimed adherents. Conversely, they may require the marital conversion of those who wish to marry one of their adherents.

Forced Assimilation - Cultural Assimilation

Interfaith Marriage traditionally called "mixed marriage", is marriage between spouses professing different religions. Although interfaith marriages are most often contracted as civil marriages, in some instances they may be contracted as a religious marriage. This depends on religious prohibitions against the marriage by the religion of one (or both) spouses, based on religious doctrine or tradition. In an interfaith marriage, each partner typically adheres to their own religion; this excludes a marriage of a spouse belonging to religion X to a spouse who has undergone religious conversion from religion Y to religion X. Interfaith marriage is also distinct from the concepts of religious assimilation, cultural assimilation, religious disaffiliation, and apostasy. Despite the distinction, these issues are associated with aspects of interfaith marriage. Interfaith marriage is also distinct from interracial and inter-ethnic marriage (also known as "mixed marriage"), since spouses in an interfaith marriage may share the same race or ethnicity. In some religions, religious doctrine prohibits interfaith marriage. In others, religious tradition opposes interfaith marriage but may allow it in limited circumstances. Several major religions are mute on the issue, and still others allow it with requirements for ceremony and custom. For ethno-religious groups, resistance to interfaith marriage may be a form of self-segregation.

Auto-Segregation is the separation of a religious or ethnic group from the rest of society in a state by the group itself. This could also mean inability for a normal social interaction and a form of social exclusion. Through auto-segregation, the members of the separate group can establish their own services, and maintain their own traditions and customs. For example, some of the world's uncontacted peoples have preferred not to interact with the rest of the globally integrated human population. By remaining in a reserve and in isolation, they can preserve their cultures intact as long as they choose and the surrounding states protect them. On the other hand, some groups self-segregate to avoid integrating with other groups, either to protect their culture or some may self-segregate from others that they consider intellectually and/or socially inferior. Nationalists (non-racists) or racists, ultranationalists, other 'supremacist' or ethno-centric groups commonly segregate themselves from other communities through various practices like endogamy. The apartheid system in South Africa was an example of this trend.

Separatism - Secession - Sexless Marriage

Religious Segregation is the separation of people according to their religion. The term has been applied to cases of religious-based segregation occurring as a social phenomenon, as well as to segregation arising from laws, whether explicit or implicit. The similar term religious apartheid has also been used for situations where people are separated based on religion, including sociological phenomena.

Racial Segregation is the separation of people into racial or other ethnic groups in daily life. Multi-Racial - Racism.

Sex Segregation is the physical, legal, and cultural separation of people according to their biological sex.

Propose is to ask someone to marry you. Proposal.

Marriage Proposal is an event where one person in a relationship asks for the other's hand in marriage. If accepted, it marks the initiation of engagement, a mutual promise of later marriage. It often has a ritual quality.

Engagement is a promise to wed, and also the period of time between a marriage proposal and a marriage. During this period, a couple is said to be betrothed (Pledged), "intended", affianced, engaged to be married, or simply engaged.

Marriage Builders

Stories of Long Marriages (senior citizen stories)

Dowry is a payment by the groom or his family to the bride's parents.

Arranged Marriage - Women's Rights - Women's News

There's over 4 million Weddings in America every year, and an average of 4 million Births.

Having Children - Reproduction - Baby Earth

Motherhood Penalty in the workplace, working mothers encounter systematic disadvantages in pay, perceived competence, and benefits relative to childless women. Specifically, women may suffer a per-child wage penalty, resulting in a pay gap between non-mothers and mothers that is larger than the gap between men and women. Mothers may also suffer worse job-site evaluations indicating that they are less committed to their jobs, less dependable, and less authoritative than non-mothers. Thus, mothers may experience disadvantages in terms of hiring, pay, and daily job experience. The motherhood penalty is not limited to one simple cause but can rather be linked to many theories and societal perceptions. However, one prominent theory that can be consistently liked to this penalty is the work-effort theory. It is also based on the mother's intersectionality. There are many effects developed from the motherhood penalty including wage, hiring, and promotion penalties. These effects are not limited to the United States and have been documented in over a dozen other industrialized nations including Japan, South Korea, The United Kingdom, Poland, and Australia. The penalty has not shown any signs of declining over time. Paid maternity boosts women’s future earnings.

Are you Ready for Marriage?

Percentage of Married Couples that get a Divorce. In Spain it's 65%, France 55%, Russia 51%, United States 46%, Germany 44%, United Kingdom 42%, New Zealand 42% and Luxembourg is 87% with a population of approximately 500,000.

The divorce rate for those younger than 50 is about twice as high as it is for adults 50 and older.

Infidelity or extra-marital affairs are responsible for the breakdown of most marriages that end in divorce.

Contemptuous behavior like eye-rolling, sarcasm and name-calling is the number one predictor of Divorce.

Contempt is the Lack of respect accompanied by a feeling of intense dislike the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.

Resentment is a mixture of disappointment, Anger, and Fear. It comprises the three basic emotions of disgust, sadness and surprise—the perception of injustice.

"Should anyone here present know of any reason why this couple should not be joined in holy matrimony, speak now or forever hold your peace." Activism.

Sarcasm - Overreacting - Body Language

Some say that being married makes you live longer, but others say that being married only makes life seem longer. Life on drugs does not make life better, drugs only makes life seem better. Our awareness is a beautiful thing, but only if we pay attention to our awareness, and only if we actually understand our awareness accurately enough. Like any skill or any ability, it's a learned experience from having access to the correct knowledge and information.

Songs about Marriage  - Carly Simon "That's The Way I've Always Heard It Should Be" 1971 (youtube - great song about thinking of marriage) - Lesley Gore "You Don't Own Me" 1963 HD (youtube) - The White Stripes-Hardest Button To Button (youtube) - Going To The Chapel Of Love- The Dixie Cups (youtube) - Songs about Marriage (wiki).

Vows - Promises

Promise is a commitment by someone to do or not do something. As a noun promise means a declaration assuring that one will or will not do something. As a verb it means to commit oneself by a promise to do or give. It can also mean a capacity for good, similar to a value that is to be realized in the near future. Responsibility - Cheating.

Marriage Vows are promises each partner in a couple makes to the other during a wedding ceremony.

My Wedding Vows - Oaths of Service - Honesty (trust) - Public Proclamation

Pledge is a solemn binding promise to do, give, or refrain from doing something. Bound by or as if by an oath. Promise solemnly and formally. Give as a guarantee.

Weddings - Planning the Big Day

Wedding Planner is a professional who assists with the design, planning and management of a client's wedding. Weddings are significant events in people's lives and as such, couples are often willing to spend considerable amount of money to ensure that their weddings are well-organized. Wedding planners are often used by couples who work long hours and have little spare time available for sourcing and managing wedding venues and wedding suppliers.

The Ultimate Wedding Planner & Organizer Book (Ring-Bound) (amazon)

Wedding Tips & Planning Information - The Knot

Event Planning is the application of project management to the creation and development of large scale events such as festivals, conferences, ceremonies, weddings, formal parties, concerts, or conventions. It involves studying the brand, identifying its target audience, devising the event concept, and coordinating the technical aspects before actually launching the event. The process of planning and coordinating the event is usually referred to as event planning and which can include budgeting, scheduling, site selection, acquiring necessary permits, coordinating transportation and parking, arranging for speakers or entertainers, arranging decor, event security, catering, coordinating with third party vendors, and emergency plans. Each event is different in it's nature so process of planning & execution of each event differs on basis of type of event. The events industry now includes events of all sizes from the Olympics down to business breakfast meetings. Many industries, charitable organizations, and interest groups hold events in order to market themselves, build business relationships, raise money, or celebrate achievement.

Web Cast My Wedding - Bands & DJ's - Music Websites - Love Songs - Wedding Website

"It's better to Thrive before Wive, and to choose your Wife by the Ear than by your Eye."

I Do....and Now I Don't, So what do you do with that Wedding Ring?

Environmentally Friendly Wedding Ideas - Vibrant Events - Plant a Memory - E Vite - Green Weddings - Green Wedding - Green Products - Make your own Wedding Ring.

Divorce - When Marriages Fail - Separations

Marital Separation occurs when spouses in a marriage stop living together without getting divorced. Married couples may separate as an initial step in the divorce process or to gain perspective on the marriage and determine if a divorce is warranted. Other couples may separate as an alternative to divorce for economic or religious reasons, for tax purposes, or to ensure continuing retirement and/or health insurance benefits for both spouses. A separation can be initiated informally, or there can be a legal separation with a formal separation agreement filed with the court. As for a divorce, the latter may include provisions for alimony, whether to have sole custody or shared parenting of any children, and the amount of child support. Separation can give yourself a chance to look at your relationship while taking the time and space to gain a better view. Stages of Grief.

Legal Separation is a legal process by which a married couple may formalize a de facto separation while remaining legally married. A legal separation is granted in the form of a court order. Furthermore, in cases where children are involved, a court order of legal separation often makes temporary arrangements for the care, custody, and financial support of the children ("for the time being"). Thus, part of the court order determines child custody. Some couples obtain a legal separation as an alternative to a divorce, based on moral or religious objections to divorce. Legal separation does not automatically lead to divorce. The couple might reconcile, in which case they do not have to do anything in order to continue their marriage. If the two do not reconcile, and they wish to proceed with a divorce, they must file for divorce explicitly. (sometimes judicial separation, separate maintenance, divorce a mensa et thoro, or divorce from bed-and-board). Separation is the action or state of moving or being moved apart.

Cheating - Jealousy - Rejection - Life After Prison - Transitions.

Family Therapy is a branch of psychotherapy that works with families and couples in intimate relationships to nurture change and development. It tends to view change in terms of the systems of interaction between family members. It emphasizes family relationships as an important factor in psychological health. (also referred to as couple and family therapy, marriage and family therapy, family systems therapy, and family counseling).

Couples Therapy attempts to improve romantic relationships and resolve interpersonal conflicts.

Divorce is also known as dissolution of marriage, is the termination of a marriage or marital union, the canceling or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the bonds of matrimony between a married couple under the rule of law of the particular country or state. Divorce laws vary considerably around the world, but in most countries divorce requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process, which may involve issues of alimony (spousal support), child custody, child visitation / access, parenting time, child support, distribution of property, and division of debt. In most countries, monogamy is required by law, so divorce allows each former partner to marry another person; where polygyny is legal but polyandry is not, divorce allows the woman to marry another person. Divorce should not be confused with annulment, which declares the marriage null and void, with legal separation or de jure separation (a legal process by which a married couple may formalize a de facto separation while remaining legally married) or with de facto separation (a process where the spouses informally stop cohabiting). Reasons for divorce vary, from sexual incompatibility or lack of independence for one or both spouses to a personality clash. Every 13 seconds, someone in the United States files for divorce.

Annulment is a legal procedure within secular and religious legal systems for declaring a marriage null and void. Unlike divorce, it is usually retroactive, meaning that an annulled marriage is considered to be invalid from the beginning almost as if it had never taken place (though some jurisdictions provide that the marriage is only void from the date of the annulment; for example, this is the case in section 12 of the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 in England and Wales). In legal terminology, an annulment makes a void marriage or a voidable marriage null and lacking any legal or binding force.

Void in law is something that lacks any legal or binding force or has no legal effect or is declare invalid. An action, document, or transaction which is void is of no legal effect whatsoever: an absolute nullity — the law treats it as if it had never existed or happened. The term void ab initio, which means "to be treated as invalid from the outset," comes from adding the Latin phrase ab initio (from the beginning) as a qualifier. For example, in many jurisdictions where a person signs a contract under duress, that contract is treated as being void ab initio. The frequent combination "null [Latin origin] and void [Germanic origin]" is an example similar to "last will [Germanic] and testament [Latin]", making doubly clear, in both families of English language words, just what is under discussion.

Leading cause of a divorce is infidelity. When someone cheats on you and has sex with someone else, this can could reduce the trust that you have in that person and also make the relationship vulnerable and insecure. Infidelity can also be a sign that there is a lack of commitment. Getting married too young can also make a marriage more vulnerable to failure, which is mostly related to peoples lack of knowledge and information, which could happen at any age. Drug abuse can also put a strain on a marriage. But addictions of any kind can cause people to make bad choices that can have negative affects on a relationship and cause unneeded suffering of the user and unneeded suffering of the people close to them. Finances and money can also have negative affects on relationships. Money is another problem that is directly related to the lack of education and people not educating themselves enough during their life. Constant arguing or Bickering is another problem that is directly related to the lack of education and people not educating themselves. Communication issues will always be present with couples who don't educate themselves. Couples who educate themselves together often stay together. When couples are not learning to understand themselves better and learning to understand other people better, then they will always experience problems, like Weight Gain, Intimacy Issues and Domestic Abuse.

Four Horsemen are four markers of relationship failure with a 93 percent accuracy in predicting divorce: Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling.

Irreconcilable Differences is a no-fault grounds for divorce, which means neither party committed any sort of extenuating act, such as adultery, abandonment or extreme cruelty. In other words, no-fault divorce is just like it sounds—no single party is at fault for the breakdown of the marriage. Irreconcilable differences is the sole grounds for divorce, with adequate proof being that the estranged couple have been separated for more than 12 months.

No-Fault Divorce is a divorce in which the dissolution of a marriage does not require a showing of wrongdoing by either party.

Irretrievable is something impossible to recover, recoup or overcome.

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