Self Smart - Intrapersonal Intelligence

Self Smart entails the capacity to understand oneself, to understand one’s feelings, fears and motivations. It's not just what you are, but who you are.



Self-Awareness allows you to assess situations objectively and rationally, without acting on biases and stereotypes. Practice self-evaluation and reflection and keep a journal to track your progress. Self-improvement only happens once you recognize your vulnerabilities. Pay attention to the way you respond to your successes and failures. Practice saying “No” to yourself.

Self Realization is defined as the "fulfillment by oneself of the possibilities of one's character or personality." Awareness of one’s abilities and goals. Sense of well-being and development. Learning from mistakes and Failures. Talking effectively and moderating our responses. Empathizing accurately.

Self-Concept (who am I?) - Inner Monologue

People Smart and Self Smart are closely Related. You and I.

Culture Awareness (study categories) - Body Image

Core Self-Evaluations represent a stable personality trait which encompasses an individual's subconscious, fundamental evaluations about themselves, their own abilities and their own control. People who have high core self-evaluations will think positively of themselves and be confident in their own abilities. Conversely, people with low core self-evaluations will have a negative appraisal of themselves and will lack confidence.

Self-Diagnosis is the process of diagnosing, or identifying, medical conditions in oneself. It may be assisted by medical dictionaries, books, resources on the Internet, past personal experiences, or recognizing symptoms or medical signs of a condition that a family member previously had. For internet searching, it helps to know medical terms for the various signs and symptoms. Self-Reflection (how you see yourself)

Baseline - Identity - Mannerisms - Ego

Self Psychology is when the effort is made to understand individuals from within their subjective experience via vicarious introspection, basing interpretations on the understanding of the self as the central agency of the human psyche. Essential to understanding self psychology are the concepts of empathy, self-object, mirroring, idealising, alter ego/twinship and the tripolar self. Though self psychology also recognizes certain drives, conflicts, and complexes present in Freudian psychodynamic theory, these are understood within a different framework. Self psychology was seen as a major break from traditional psychoanalysis and is considered the beginnings of the relational approach to psychoanalysis.

Self-knowledge in psychology describes the information that an individual draws upon when finding an answer to the question "What am I like?". While seeking to develop the answer to this question, self-knowledge requires ongoing self-awareness and self-consciousness (which is not to be confused with consciousness). Young infants and chimpanzees display some of the traits of self-awareness and agency/contingency, yet they are not considered as also having self-consciousness. At some greater level of cognition, however, a self-conscious component emerges in addition to an increased self-awareness component, and then it becomes possible to ask "What am I like?", and to answer with self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is a component of the self, or more accurately, the self-concept. It is the knowledge of one's self and one's properties and the desire to seek such knowledge that guide the development of the self-concept. Self-knowledge informs us of our mental representations of ourselves, which contain attributes that we uniquely pair with ourselves, and theories on whether these attributes are stable, or dynamic.

Psychology - Defense Mechanism - Inner Monologue - Meditation

Discovering Psychology (videos) - Frontier Psychiatrist (youtube)

Introspection is the examination or observation of one's own mental and emotional processes. Introspection is the examination of one's own conscious thoughts and feelings. In psychology, the process of introspection relies on the observation of one's mental state, while in a spiritual context it may refer to the examination of one's soul. Introspection is closely related to human self-reflection and self-discovery and is contrasted with external observation. Introspection generally provides a privileged access to one's own mental states, not mediated by other sources of knowledge, so that individual experience of the mind is unique. Introspection can determine any number of mental states including: sensory, bodily, cognitive, emotional and so forth.

Who are you, really? The puzzle of personality, Brian Little: (video and interactive text)

Psychology of Self is the study of either the cognitive, conative or affective representation of one's identity or the subject of experience.

Developmental Psychology (change and mature) - Development (Maturity)

Psychological Self Help - Self-Help Books

I Amaze Myself is a phrase that a person uses when they are amazed at an accomplishment that they were successful in doing. They may also be proud of themselves for expressing an act of intelligence. This is because they know that many times before they made mistakes, so they feel happy and fortunate to have not made another mistake. And knowing that they could have been just lucky, they try not to gain any false confidence, instead, they look at this phenomenon as a learning moment. Why was I so amazing?

Determination - Realization - Actualization - Verification - Validation

Self-Determination Theory is a macro theory of human motivation and personality that concerns people's inherent growth tendencies and innate psychological needs. It is concerned with the motivation behind choices people make without external influence and interference. SDT focuses on the degree to which an individual's behavior is self-motivated and self-determined.

Self-Realization is the fulfillment by oneself of the possibilities of one's character or personality. In the Indian understanding, self-realization is liberating knowledge of the true Self, either as the permanent undying atman, or as the absence (sunyata) of such a permanent Self. Identity.

Self-Actualization is realizing one's capabilities or motivation to achieve budding ambitions. Self-Actualizer is a person who is living creatively and fully using his or her potentials. A person with an unusual ability to detect the spurious, the fake, and the dishonest in personality, and in general to judge people correctly and efficiently. Self-actualizers are efficient perceptions of reality. Self-actualizers are able to judge situations correctly and honestly. They are very sensitive to the fake and dishonest, and are free to see reality 'as it is'. Comfortable acceptance of self, others and nature. Self-actualizers accept their own human nature with all its flaws. The shortcomings of others and the contradictions of the human condition are accepted with humor and tolerance. Reliant on own experiences and judgment. Independent, not reliant on culture and environment to form opinions and views. Spontaneous and natural. True to oneself, rather than being how others want. Task centering. Most of Maslow's subjects had a mission to fulfill in life or some task or problem 'beyond' themselves (instead of outside themselves) to pursue. Humanitarians such as Albert Schweitzer are considered to have possessed this quality. Autonomy. Self-actualizers are free from reliance on external authorities or other people. They tend to be resourceful and independent. Continued freshness of appreciation. The self-actualizer seems to constantly renew appreciation of life's basic goods. A sunset or a flower will be experienced as intensely time after time as it was at first. There is an "innocence of vision", like that of an artist or child. Profound interpersonal relationships. The interpersonal relationships of self-actualizers are marked by deep loving bonds. Comfort with solitude. Despite their satisfying relationships with others, self-actualizing people value solitude and are comfortable being alone. Non-hostile sense of humor. This refers to the ability to laugh at oneself. Peak experiences. All of Maslow's subjects reported the frequent occurrence of peak experiences (temporary moments of self-actualization). These occasions were marked by feelings of ecstasy, harmony, and deep meaning. Self-actualizers reported feeling at one with the universe, stronger and calmer than ever before, filled with light, beauty, goodness, and so forth. Socially compassionate. Possessing humanity. Few friends. Few close intimate friends rather than many superficial relationships. According to Maslow, the self-actualizers possess "Gemeinschaftsgefühl", which refers to "social interest, community feeling, or a sense of oneness with all humanity." Self-actualization represents the highest level of psychological development where the "actualization" of full personal potential is achieved. In Maslow's theory, this occurs only after basic and mental needs have been fulfilled. The desire for self-fulfillment, the full realization of one's potential" and of one's "true self". Self Actualization (youtube).

Self-Verification Theory is a social psychological theory that asserts people want to be known and understood by others according to their firmly held beliefs and feelings about themselves, that is self-views (including self-concepts and self-esteem). A competing theory to self-verification is self-enhancement or the drive for positive evaluations.

People want recognition, acceptance, approval, attention, appreciated, people want to feel important and feel valuable and feel smart and feel secure, and feel loved. - Validation - Reality Check.

Seeking Validation from Others is reasonable for anyone who wants their ideas, choices, achievements, or opinions validated by those around them. After all, what is the first thing we do as children when we accomplish something? We look to our parents for recognition or validation that we did a good thing. Validation is the "recognition and acceptance" of someone else's experience.  It is not about agreeing with someone or accepting their thoughts as your own; it is about being able to accept these thoughts and experiences as being valid. Validation is part of being interdependent and relying on the feedback and encouragement of others around us. Even very independent people still need validation in some aspects of their life; however, they are also able to accept their own self-validation if they do not get it from someone else. The problem arises when self-validation is not possible or is not valued. In other words, if an individual puts the opinion, approval, or recognition of someone else over their own feelings, they will need that external, other person's validation on an ongoing basis. Being Loved.

Self-Validation is the ability to recognize and acknowledge your own internal experience.

Emotional Self-Regulation - Life Skills - Intrinsic Education - 21st Century Skills - Emotions - Emotional Intelligence
Confidence - Moral Development - Self Knowledge (Know thyself) - Observation Flaws - Depression

Self-Affirmation is a psychological theory that focuses on how individuals adapt to information or experiences that are threatening to their self-concept. Self-affirmation theory contends that if individuals reflect on values that are personally relevant to them, they are less likely to experience distress and react defensively when confronted with information that contradicts or threatens their sense of self. Experimental investigations of self-affirmation theory suggest that self-affirmation can help individuals cope with threat or stress and that it might be beneficial for improving academic performance, health, and reducing defensiveness. Social Networks.

Soul Searching is an honest evaluation of your feelings and motives or a deep and anxious consideration of one's emotions and motives, or of the correctness of a course of action. Soul searching is when you take the time to meditate and think about the purpose of your life and what is most important to you. Involving or expressing deep consideration.

Take a Long Hard Look at Yourself is to think carefully about who you are and your opinions and behaviors. A proactive self-assessment and a postmortem of your milestones in the last few years. A SWOT analysis. Strengths: Your characteristics that give it an advantage over others. Weaknesses: Your characteristics that put you at a disadvantage relative to others. Opportunities: The elements in the environment that you could use effectively to its advantage. Threats: The elements in the environment that could cause you trouble or harm.

Personalities - Behaviors

Personality is the complex of all the attributes, a construct whereby objects or individuals can be distinguished--behavioral, temperamental, emotional and mental--qualities that characterize a unique individual. Personality Development.

Characteristic is a prominent attribute or aspect of something. A distinguishing quality. Morals. 

Attribute is a construct whereby objects or individuals can be distinguished from each other.

Idiosyncratic is something unique to the individual. Mannerism - Essence.

Unique is something distinctive and applying exclusively to a given category or condition or locality. The single one of its kind.

Predominant is something that is the most frequent and common and having superior power or influence.

Peculiar is something that is beyond or deviating from the usual or expected. Unique or specific to a person or thing or category. Markedly different from the usual. Characteristic of one only and distinctive or special. 

Odd is something that is not easily explained and beyond or deviating from the usual or expected. Undesirable Traits.

"Everyone is different, every planet in the universe is different, so it seems that difference is by design, and being different certainly makes things a lot more interesting. Sameness would totally suck, just like conformity sometimes does."

Difference is the quality of being unlike or dissimilar. A variation. A change. Unlike in nature or quality or form or degree.

"But we still need to agree on something's and work together, otherwise, our differences will end up destroying us instead of bringing us together to enjoy our shared experiences." Diversity.

Mannerism - Attitude

Personal Life is the course of an individual's life, especially when viewed as the sum of personal choices contributing to one's personal identity.

Authenticity Philosophy is being true to one's own personality, spirit, or character, despite external pressures.

"There isn’t anything noble about being superior to another person. True nobility is in being superior to the person you once were."

Big 5 Personality Traits (wiki) - Five Factor Model (wiki)

OCEAN: Openness to experience, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism, which is when you can't really explain yourself.

Openness to Experience has six facets, or dimensions, including active imagination (fantasy), aesthetic sensitivity, attentiveness to inner feelings, preference for variety, and intellectual curiosity.

Responsibilities (being reponsible)

Personality Test is a questionnaire or other standardized instrument designed to reveal aspects of an individual's character or psychological makeup. Personality Assessment Errors.

All personality tests invite a bit of self-deception, for it's deception that legitimates the test. Personality Tests are too General and too Vague. You have to define the circumstances. We're Plastic.

Scientists Determine Four Personality Types based on new data from more than 1.5 million questionnaire respondents. average, reserved, self-centered and role model. They are based on the five widely accepted basic personality traits, neuroticism, extraversion, openness, agreeableness and conscientious.

Free Personality Test - Dalai Lama Personality Test

Changes in Personality - Drug Use - Personality Disorder

Watson Personality Analysis (image)

This "Cube" Test Will Tell You Everything About Your Personality (youtube)

Relationship Questions - People Smart

Mental Age looks at how a specific child, at a specific age—usually today, now—performs intellectually, compared to average intellectual performance for that physical age, measured in years. The physical age of the child is compared to the intellectual performance of the child, based on performance in tests and live assessments by a psychologist. Scores achieved by the child in question are compared to scores in the middle of a bell curve for children of the same age.

Myers Briggs Type Indicator is an introspective self-report questionnaire designed to indicate psychological preferences in how people perceive the world and make decisions.

Personality Psychology is a branch of psychology that studies personality and its variation among individuals. Its areas of focus include: Construction of a coherent picture of the individual and their major psychological processes. Investigation of individual psychological differences. Investigation of human nature and psychological similarities between individuals.

Type A and Type B Personality Theory describes two contrasting personality types. In this theory, personalities that are more competitive, outgoing, ambitious, impatient and/or aggressive are labeled Type A, while more relaxed personalities are labeled Type B.

Personality Insights on about 50 Different Traits.

Enneagram is a model of human personality which is principally understood and taught as a typology of nine interconnected personality types.

Enneagram Type Indicator - Enneagram Institute

Personality Cafe

The Secret You (youtube)

Why are children in the same family so different from one another?
Siblings Share Genes, But Rarely Personalities.
How can people be different when they grow up in the same environment?
Personality Research.

Everyone is born with their own personality characteristics. So where do they come from? Do they some how form in our mothers womb? Or do they form based on that babies particular experiences, and its interpretation of those particular experiences.

Personality is Not Fixed

Behavior is not fixed, even human nature is not 100% fixed, everyone can adapt and change behaviors if needed, the brain is plastic, it has to be in order to adapt to new environments and to evolve. When we learn more about ourselves and our world, we change and improve, as we have since the beginning. It's amazing what learning can do, especially learning the right things in the right way and at the right times.

Scientists say you can change your personality. But it takes persistent intervention or mindfulness. Research has found that a relatively small number of personality traits can account for most of the ways in which people differ from one another. Thus, they are related to a wide range of important life outcomes. These traits are also relatively stable, but changeable with effort and good timing. This combination -- broad and enduring, yet changeable -- makes them particularly promising targets for large-scale interventions. Both neuroticism and conscientiousness, for example, may represent good intervention targets in young adulthood. And certain interventions -- especially those that require persistence and long-term commitment -- may be more effective among conscientious, emotionally stable people. It is also important to consider motivational factors, as success is more likely if people are motivated and think change is feasible, researchers said.

We have to be extremely careful with labels, especially the labels we give to ourselves.

Are personalities some type of hereditary trait? Or maybe our personalities are some kind of an evolutionary adaptation in the DNA that causes each of us to have unique personalities so that it would guarantee the survival of our species, because different personalities sometimes do different things. But It doesn't mean that your personality will always stay completely the same. Or does it mean that you will never understand your personality. Or does it mean that you will never learn how to modify, change or control your personality. Your personality is not a hard wired program, it's software. And software can be updated. Plasticity.

Everyone has distinct personality traits. And we sometimes process things differently. But shouldn't our processes be similar if we all learned similar things and have similar goals? Is it just that some people take a different approach to things? You would still have to be aware of your approach to a problem and be able to compare the differences between yours and someone else's approach to a problem. Someone just saying " I'm shy " does not explain the reason why that person did not take a particular action. Shyness should not be a factor in your decision making. Only knowledge, information and experience should be used in decision making, not your personal perception of what shyness is. You shouldn't apply shyness to problem solving. Shyness is not the only reason why you do things or don't do things, there are many reasons why, so what are they? I didn't do it because I was doing something else, or I knew that it was not necessary or relevant so I did something else, or I had other ideas, or I did not feel good and was not up to the task. There are many reasons, and the more reasons that you are aware of, the more you can understand your actions. It's how you process the world, and how you output that information, which can have unique circumstances that require unique actions, so don't worry about mistakes or misunderstandings, learning is a lifelong journey.

Learning Methods - Self-Directed Learning - Awareness

"When no one is there to explain things to you, or explain how to perceive and understand things, then you will understand them in your own unique way."

Behaviors

Dissociative Identity Disorder or multiple personality disorder, is a mental disorder characterized by at least two distinct and relatively enduring identities or dissociated personality states that alternately show in a person's Behavior, accompanied by memory impairment for important information not explained by ordinary forgetfulness.

Dissociative Identity Disorder in Popular Culture is for works of fiction that feature multiple personalities (dissociative identity disorder) as part of the plot.

Depersonalization Disorder can consist of a reality or detachment within the self, regarding one's mind or body, or being a detached observer of oneself. Subjects feel they have changed and that the world has become vague, dreamlike, less real, or lacking in significance. It can be a disturbing experience. Chronic depersonalization refers to depersonalization-derealization disorder, which is classified by the DSM-5 as a dissociative disorder. Social Networks.

Idiosyncrasy means odd habit. The term is often used to express eccentricity or peculiarity. A synonym may be "quirk".

Eccentricity refers to unusual or odd behavior on the part of an individual. This behavior would typically be perceived as unusual or unnecessary, without being demonstrably maladaptive. Eccentricity is contrasted with "normal" behavior, the nearly universal means by which individuals in society solve given problems and pursue certain priorities in everyday life. People who consistently display benignly eccentric behavior are labeled as "eccentrics".

Alexithymia is a personality construct characterized by the subclinical inability to identify and describe emotions in the self. The core characteristics of alexithymia are marked dysfunction in emotional awareness, social attachment, and interpersonal relating. Furthermore, alexithymics have difficulty in distinguishing and appreciating the emotions of others, which is thought to lead to unempathic and ineffective emotional responding. Alexithymia is prevalent in approximately 10% of the general population and is known to be comorbid with a number of psychiatric conditions.

Blunted Affect is a condition of reduced emotional reactivity in an individual. It manifests as a failure to express feelings (affect display) either verbally or non-verbally, especially when talking about issues that would normally be expected to engage the emotions. Expressive gestures are rare and there is little animation in facial expression or vocal inflection. Reduced affect can be symptomatic of autism, schizophrenia, depression, posttraumatic stress disorder, depersonalization disorder, or brain damage. It may also be a side effect of certain medications (e.g., antipsychotics and antidepressants). Individuals with blunted or flat affect show different regional brain activity when compared with typical individuals. Reduced affect should be distinguished from apathy, which explicitly refers to a lack of emotion, whereas reduced affect is a lack of emotional expression regardless of whether emotion is actually reduced or not.

Challenging Behavior is defined as "culturally abnormal behaviors of such intensity, frequency or duration that the physical safety of the person or others is placed in serious jeopardy, or behavior which is likely to seriously limit or deny access to the use of ordinary community facilities". "Ordinarily we would expect the person to have shown the pattern of behavior that presents such a challenge to services for a considerable period of time. Severely challenging behavior is not a transient phenomenon." Challenging behavior is most often, though not exclusively exhibited by individuals with learning developmental disabilities, individuals with dementia or other mental health needs, such as strokes or acquired brain injuries, individuals with psychosis and by children, although such behaviors can be displayed by any person. Food and Intelligence

Dialectical Behavior Therapy is a therapy designed to help people suffering from mood disorders as well as those who need to change patterns of behavior that are not helpful, such as self-harm, suicidal ideation, and substance abuse. This approach works towards helping people increase their emotional and cognitive regulation by learning about the triggers that lead to reactive states and helping to assess which coping skills to apply in the sequence of events, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to help avoid undesired reactions. DBT assumes that people are doing their best but lack the skills needed to succeed, or are influenced by positive or negative reinforcement that interferes with their ability to function appropriately.

Behavior - Mental Health - Human Universals is a book by Donald Brown.

Archetype is a statement, pattern of behavior, or prototype (model) which other statements, patterns of behavior, and objects copy or emulate. (Frequently used informal synonyms for this usage include "standard example", "basic example", and the longer form "archetypal example". Mathematical archetypes often appear as "canonical examples"). A Platonic philosophical idea referring to pure forms which embody the fundamental characteristics of a thing in Platonism. A collectively-inherited unconscious idea, pattern of thought, image, etc., that is universally present in individual psyches, as in Jungian psychology. A constantly recurring symbol or motif in literature, painting, or mythology (this usage of the term draws from both comparative anthropology and from Jungian archetypal theory). In various seemingly unrelated cases in classic storytelling, media, etc., characters or ideas sharing similar traits recur.

Development - Progress

Personal Development covers activities that improve  self-awareness and identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance the quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations. Personal development takes place over the course of a person's entire life. Not limited to self-help, the concept involves formal and informal activities for developing others in roles such as teacher, guide, counselor, manager, life coach or mentor. When personal development takes place in the context of institutions, it refers to the methods, programs, tools, techniques, and assessment systems that support human development at the individual level in organizations. Personal development may include the following activities: Improving self-awareness. Improving self-knowledge. Improving skills and/or learning new ones. Building or renewing identity/self-esteem. Developing strengths or talents. Improving a career. Identifying or improving potential. Building employability or (alternatively) human capital. Enhancing lifestyle and/or the quality of life. Improving health. Improving wealth or social status. Fulfilling aspirations. Initiating a life enterprise. Defining and executing personal development plans (PDPs). Improving social relations or emotional intelligence. Personal development can also include developing other people. This may take place through roles such as those of a teacher or mentor, either through a personal competency (such as the skill of certain managers in developing the potential of employees) or through a professional service (such as providing training, assessment or coaching). Beyond improving oneself and developing others, "personal development" labels a field of practice and research. As a field of practice, it includes personal development methods, learning programs, assessment systems, tools, and techniques.

Child Development - City Development - When do I become an Adult - Sexual Development

2.0 is used to denote a superior or more advanced version of an original concept, product, service, etc.. It's embracing something brand new, something different, revolutionary, totally revamped from the old 1.0 version that's just not as good.

I'm the same person, I'm just more advanced now, an updated version of me. It's Me 2.0 - Reboot.

Community Development (social learning) - Progress (advancement) - Transition.

Character (moral qualities and emotional intelligence) - Physiological Metamorphosis.

Developmental Psychology is the scientific study of how and why human beings change over the course of their life. Developmental psychology looks at how thinking, feeling, and behavior change throughout a person's life. A significant proportion of theories within this discipline focus upon development during childhood, as this is the period during an individual's lifespan when the most change occurs. Growth Mindset.

Personality Development is the relatively enduring pattern of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that distinguish individuals from one another. The dominant view in the field of personality psychology today holds that personality emerges early and continues to change in meaningful ways throughout the lifespan. Evidence from large-scale, long-term studies has supported this perspective. Adult personality traits are believed to have a basis in infant temperament, meaning that individual differences in disposition and behavior appear early in life, possibly even before language or conscious self-representation develop. The Five Factor Model of personality has been found to map onto dimensions of childhood temperament, suggesting that individual differences in levels of the “big five” personality traits (neuroticism, extraversion, openness to experience, agreeableness, and conscientiousness) are present from young ages.

Adult Development encompasses the changes that occur in biological and psychological domains of human life from the end of adolescence until the end of one's life. These changes may be gradual or rapid, and can reflect positive, negative, or no change from previous levels of functioning. Changes occur at the cellular level and are partially explained by biological theories of adult development and aging. Biological changes influence psychological and interpersonal/social developmental changes, which are often described by stage theories of human development. Stage theories typically focus on “age-appropriate” developmental tasks to be achieved at each stage. Erik Erikson and Carl Jung proposed stage theories of human development that encompass the entire life span, and emphasized the potential for positive change very late in life.

Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development is a comprehensive psychoanalytic theory that identifies a series of eight stages that a healthy developing individual should pass through from infancy to late adulthood. Erikson's stage theory characterizes an individual advancing through the eight life stages as a function of negotiating their biological and sociocultural forces. Each stage is characterized by a psychosocial crisis of these two conflicting forces. If an individual does indeed successfully reconcile these forces (favoring the first mentioned attribute in the crisis), they emerge from the stage with the corresponding virtue. For example, if an infant enters into the toddler stage (autonomy vs. shame and doubt) with more trust than mistrust, they carry the virtue of hope into the remaining life stages. The challenges of stages not successfully completed may be expected to return as problems in the future. However, mastery of a stage is not required to advance to the next stage. The outcome of one stage is not permanent and can be modified by later experiences. Milestones.

End of History illusion is a psychological illusion in which individuals of all ages believe that they have experienced significant personal growth and changes in tastes up to the present moment, but will not substantially grow or mature in the future. Despite recognizing that their perceptions have evolved, individuals predict that their perceptions will remain roughly the same in the future. The illusion is based on the fact that at any given developmental stage, an individual can observe a relatively low level of maturity in previous stages. The phenomenon affects teenagers, middle-aged individuals, and seniors. In general, people tend to see significant changes in hindsight, but fail to predict that these changes will continue. For example, a 20-year-old's impression of how great a change they will undergo in the next ten years will not be as extreme as a 30-year-old's recollection of the changes they underwent between the ages of 20 and 30. The same phenomenon is true for people of any age. The reason for the illusion has not been studied, although researchers speculate that a resistance or fear of change may be causal.

Flexibility in Personality is the extent to which a person can cope with changes in circumstances and think about problems and tasks in novel, creative ways. This trait is used when stressors or unexpected events occur, requiring a person to change their stance, outlook, or commitment. Flexible personality should not be confused with cognitive flexibility, which is the ability to switch between two concepts, as well as simultaneously think about multiple concepts. Researchers of cognitive flexibility describe cognitive flexibility as the ability to switch one’s thinking and attention between tasks. Flexibility, or psychological flexibility as it is sometimes referred to, is the ability to adapt to situational demands, balance life demands, and commit to behaviors.

Being free to develop your own personality is extremely important.

"Who you want to be is not a destination, who you want to be is a journey. Once you have obtained the good qualities that make you who you are, there will always be you looking for more ways to be even better than the person you are now."

You are only the knowledge and information that you have acquired and learned in your life and how you process that knowledge and information. You can not be anything more than what you know, except, when you learn more than what you currently know, you can become more than what you knew before. To stop learning and to stop developing, is to stop life itself and experience a slow and painful death, which billions of humans are now experiencing in 2020.

Be yourself, but how do you know that you are truly being honest? "Don't Fake it ’til you make it."

I Am, Me, Myself and I - Who Am I?

Identity in social science is the qualities, beliefs, personality, looks and/or expressions that make a person (self-identity) or group (particular social category or social group).The process of identity can be creative or destructive. Theory of Mind.

Identify is to give the name or identifying characteristics of someone or something. To refer to something or someone by name or by some other identifying characteristic property. Consider something to be equal or the same. To recognize as being. To establish the identity of someone or something. Category.

Characteristic is a important noticeable attribute or aspect of something. A distinct feature or element that can be perceived. A distinguishing quality that can be detected. Any measurable property. Something tangible that is capable of being handled or touched or felt by the senses.

Identity in philosophy is the relation each thing bears just to itself. The notion of identity gives rise to many philosophical problems, including the identity of indiscernibles (if x and y share all their properties, are they one and the same thing?), and questions about change and personal identity over time (what has to be the case for a person x at one time and a person y at a later time to be one and the same person?).

World View - Citizenship - Baseline - Me

Personal identity deals with such questions as, "What makes it true that a person at one time is the same thing as a person at another time?" or "What kinds of things are we persons?" The term "identity" in "personal identity" refers to "numerical identity," where saying that X and Y are numerically identical just means that X and Y are the same thing.

How Can I define Myself when I am still developing and still learning? Once I try to define who I am, I am no longer that same person who I thought I was. My identity is only relevant to a particular space and time. It's not who I am now, but more about who I was before I was asked the question. "No one can stand in the same river twice." If the body affects the mind and if the mind can affect the body, then who am I? Post hoc analysis consists of statistical analyses that were not specified before the data was seen. Anatta refers to the doctrine of "non-self", that there is no unchanging, permanent self, soul or essence in living beings. And what if your memory fails, who are you then? Am I just an abstraction of my own thoughts? Do I need to reboot?

I define myself using all the knowledge and experiences that my life has given me. Everything valuable that I have learned in my life is expressed through my behaviors and actions. There are many words that you can use that could define me in some particular way, but words have more than one meaning, there for, I have more than one meaning and interpretation. Sometimes to define is to limit.

Who Are You is a question that you should ask yourself everyday. You need to remind yourself of who you are everyday. Which means that you need to keep learning and keep refining yourself and sharpening yourself. You can take break from yourself or lose yourself from time to time, but don't forget yourself. Life can become busy and overwhelming at times, but this is why you need to reconnect with your core self. A lot of times you may not notice yourself, and you may not notice how well you handled a particular situation. It's not just the good things that you do, but it's also the bad things you did not do. This is where your true power resides, you are the guardian angle of your soul. This is not your alter ego, this is the real you, the person you would be as if it were the last day on earth. Unwritten - Natasha Bedingfield (youtube).

Refining is the process of removing impurities. Improve or perfect by pruning or polishing. To make more complex, intricate, or rich. To make more precise or increase the discriminatory powers of an ability.

Sharpening is to make one's senses more acute and precise. Demonstrating an ability to recognize things or draw fine distinctions. To put things into focus and be clearly defined, like an image.

"He who defines himself, can't know who he really is." Tao Te Ching (wiki)

Self-Concept is a collection of beliefs about oneself that includes elements such as academic performance, gender roles, sexuality, and racial identity. Generally, self-concept embodies the answer to "Who am I?". (also called self-construction, self-identity, self-perspective or self-structure). Self-concept is distinguishable from Self Awareness, which refers to the extent to which self-knowledge is defined, consistent, and currently applicable to one's attitudes and dispositions. Self-concept also differs from self-esteem: self-concept is a cognitive or descriptive component of one's self (e.g. "I am a fast runner"), while self-esteem is evaluative and opinionated (e.g. "I feel good about being a fast runner"). Self-concept is made up of one's self-schemas, and interacts with self-esteem, self-knowledge, and the social self to form the self as whole. It includes the past, present, and future selves, where future selves (or possible selves) represent individuals' ideas of what they might become, what they would like to become, or what they are afraid of becoming. Possible selves may function as incentives for certain behavior. The perception people have about their past or future selves is related to the perception of their current selves. The temporal self-appraisal theory argues that people have a tendency to maintain a positive self-evaluation by distancing themselves from their negative self and paying more attention to their positive one. In addition, people have a tendency to perceive the past self less favorably (e.g. "I'm better than I used to be") and the future self more positively (e.g. "I will be better than I am now").

Identity Formation also known as individuation, is the development of the distinct personality of an individual regarded as a persisting entity (known as personal continuity) in a particular stage of life in which individual characteristics are possessed and by which a person is recognized or known (such as the establishment of a reputation). This process defines individuals to others and themselves. Pieces of the person's actual identity include a sense of continuity, a sense of uniqueness from others, and a sense of affiliation. Identity formation leads to a number of issues of personal identity and an identity where the individual has some sort of comprehension of themselves as a discrete and separate entity. This may be through individuation whereby the undifferentiated individual tends to become unique, or undergoes stages through which differentiated facets of a person's life tend toward becoming a more indivisible whole.

Internalization has different definitions depending on the field that the term is used in. Internalization is the opposite of externalization. Generally, internalization describes the psychological outcome of a conscious mind reasoning about a specific subject; the subject is internalized, and the consideration of the subject is internal. Internalization of ideals might take place following religious conversion, or in the process of, more generally, moral conversion. Internalization is directly associated with learning within an organism (or business) and recalling what has been learned.

Character Structure is a system of secondary traits that are manifested in the specific ways that an individual relates and reacts to others, to various kinds of stimuli, and to the environment. A child whose nurture and/or education cause them to have conflict between legitimate feelings, living in a illogical environment and interacting with adults who do not take the long-term interests of the child to heart will be more likely to form these secondary traits. In this manner the child blocks the unwanted emotional reaction that would have normally occurred. Although this may serve the child well while in that dysfunctional environment, it may also cause the child to react in inappropriate ways, by developing alternate ways in which the energy compulsively surfaces, ways damaging to his or her own interests, when interacting with people in a completely independent environment. Major trauma that occurs later in life, even in adulthood, can sometimes have a profound effect on character. See post-traumatic stress disorder. However, character may also develop in a positive way according to how the individual meets the psychosocial challenges of the life cycle (Erikson).

Style of Life one of several constructs describing the dynamics of the personality. It reflects the individual's unique, unconscious, and repetitive way of responding to (or avoiding) the main tasks of living: friendship, love, and work. This style, rooted in a childhood prototype, remains consistent throughout life, unless it is changed through depth psychotherapy.

If I were you I wouldn't be me. So if I were you, this is what I would do, I would be myself for who else could I be? I can give you advice and also help you, but that would be we, and not I or you.

I am not you and you are not me. We are us and we are all part of the same big family, called humans. I am no one and no one is me. You are me and I am you. And nothing else matters unless you matter, and nothing else matters unless we matter. We are the same or we are nothing. For anyone to live, we need everyone. And everyone is created from two people. This means that no one came here alone, and no one will leave here alone. And if you leave, I will not be alone, because I will find you, because....(start from the first sentence).

Privacy - Individualism - Self Manage - Open Individualism

Psychology of Self is the study of either the cognitive, conative or affective representation of one's identity or the subject of experience. The earliest formulation of the self in modern psychology derived from the distinction between the self as I, the subjective knower, and the self as Me, the object that is known.

Positive Psychology (positive thinking)

Reputation (ratings) - Self Verification - Actualization

Face Concept refers to one's own sense of dignity or prestige in social contexts. In the English-speaking world, the expression "to save face" describes the lengths that an individual may go to in order to preserve their established position in society, taking action to ensure that one is not thought badly of by his or her peers.

Social Comparison Theory (body image) - Comparisons - Ego

Me is an objective form of "I". I refers to the speaker or writer. Used of a single unit or thing; not two or more. Myself is me in person. An emphatic form of "me" or a reflexive form of "me". Reflexive in grammar is referring back to itself. A personal pronoun compounded with -self to show the agent's action affects the agent. Self is your consciousness of your own identity. A person considered as a unique individual.

Being is an extremely broad concept encompassing objective and subjective features of reality and existence. Anything that partakes in being is also called a "being", though often this use is limited to entities that have subjectivity (as in the expression "human being"). So broad a notion has, inevitably, been elusive and controversial in the history of philosophy, beginning in western philosophy with attempts among the pre-Socratics to deploy it intelligibly.

My Name - Legal Person

Person is a being, such as a human, that has certain capacities or attributes such as reason, morality, consciousness or self-consciousness, and being a part of a culturally established form of social relations such as kinship, ownership of property, or legal responsibility. The defining features of personhood and consequently what makes a person count as a person differ widely among cultures and contexts. In addition to the question of personhood, of what makes a being count as a person to begin with, there are further questions about personal identity and self: both about what makes any particular person that particular person instead of another, and about what makes a person at one time the same person as they were or will be at another time despite any intervening changes. The common plural of "person", "people", is often used to refer to an entire nation or ethnic group (as in "a people"). The plural "persons" is often used in philosophical and legal writing.

Individual is a person or a specific object. Individuality (or selfhood) is the state or quality of being an individual; particularly of being a person separate from other persons and possessing his or her own needs or goals. The exact definition of an individual is important in the fields of biology, law, and philosophy.

Identity - Personal Information (authentication)

Legal Person is any person or any legal entity that can do the things an everyday person can usually do in law – such as enter into contracts, sue and be sued, own property, and so on. The reason for the term "legal person" is that some legal persons are not people: companies and corporations are "persons" legally speaking (they can legally do most of the things an ordinary person can do), but they are clearly not people in the ordinary sense. There are therefore two kinds of legal entities: human and non-human. In law, a human person is called a natural person (sometimes also a physical person), and a non-human person is called a juridical person (sometimes also a juridic, juristic, artificial, legal, or fictitious person, Latin: persona ficta). Juridical persons are entities such as corporations, firms (in some jurisdictions), and many government agencies. They are treated in law as if they were persons. While natural persons acquire legal personality "naturally", simply by being born (or before that, in some jurisdictions), juridical persons must have legal personality conferred on them by some "unnatural", legal process, and it is for this reason that they are sometimes called "artificial" persons. In the most common case (incorporating a business), legal personality is usually acquired by registration with a government agency set up for the purpose. In other cases it may be by primary legislation: an example is the Charity Commission in the UK. As legal personality is a prerequisite to legal capacity (the ability of any legal person to amend (enter into, transfer, etc.) rights and obligations), it is a prerequisite for an international organization to be able to sign international treaties in its own name. The term "legal person" can be ambiguous because it is often used as a synonym of terms that refer only to non-human legal entities, specifically in contradistinction to "natural person".

Natural Person is a person who has its own legal personality that is an individual human being, as opposed to a legal person, which may be a private (i.e., business entity or non-governmental organization) or public (i.e., government) organization. Historically, a human being was not necessarily a natural person in some jurisdictions where slavery existed (subject of a property right) rather than a person. In many cases, fundamental human rights are implicitly granted only to natural persons. For example, the Nineteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution, which states a person cannot be denied the right to vote based on their biological sex, or Section Fifteen of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms, which guarantees equality rights, apply to natural persons only. Another example of the distinction between natural and legal persons is that a natural person can hold public office, but a corporation cannot. A corporation or non-governmental organization can, however, file a lawsuit or own property as a legal person. Citizen.

Name is a language unit by which a person or thing is known and can be identified by some identifying characteristic.

Personal Name or full name the set of names by which an individual is known and that can be recited as a word-group, with the understanding that, taken together, they all relate to that one individual. In many cultures, the term is synonymous with the birth and legal names of the individual. In Western culture, nearly all individuals possess at least one given name (also known as a first name, personal name[citation needed], forename, or Christian name), together with a surname (also known as a last name, or family name)—respectively, the Thomas and Jefferson in Thomas Jefferson—the latter to indicate that the individual belongs to a family, a tribe, or a clan. Where there are two or more given names, typically only one (in English-speaking cultures usually the first) is used in normal speech. Some cultures, including Western, also add (or once added) patronymics or matronymics, for instance, as a middle name as with Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky (whose father's given name was Ilya), or as a last name as with Björk Guðmundsdóttir (whose father was named Guðmund) or Heiðar Helguson (whose mother was named Helga). Similar concepts are present in Eastern cultures. However, in less urbanized areas of the world, many people are known by a single name, and so are said to be mononymous. Still other cultures lack the concept of specific, fixed names designating people, either individually or collectively. Certain isolated tribes, such as the Machiguenga of the Amazon, do not use personal names. A person's full name usually identifies that person for legal and administrative purposes, although it may not be the name by which the person is commonly known; some people use only a portion of their full name, or are known by titles, nicknames, pseudonyms or other formal or informal designations. It is nearly universal for people to have names; the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child declares that a child has the right to a name from birth.

Given Name is a part of a person's personal name. It identifies a specific person, and differentiates that person from other members of a group, such as a family or clan, with whom that person shares a common surname. The term given name refers to the fact that the name usually is bestowed upon a person, normally given to a child by its parents at or near the time of birth. This contrasts with a surname (also known as a family name, last name, or gentile name), which is normally inherited, and shared with other members of the child's immediate family. Fake Name.

Surname is a name added to a given name. In many cases, a surname is a family name and many dictionaries define "surname" as a synonym of "family name". In the English-speaking world, it is commonly synonymous with last name because it is usually placed at the end of a person's given name there.

That's Not My Name - The Ting Tings (youtube) - They call me "Hell", They call me "Stacey", They call me "her", They call me "Jane", That's not my name, That's not my name, That's not my name, That's not my name.

Moniker is a familiar name for a person or a shortened version of a person's given name, like a nickname.

Nickname is a descriptive name for a place or thing.

Onomastics is the study of the etymology, history, and use of proper names.

Proper Noun is a noun directly associated with an entity and primarily used to refer to that entity, That which is perceived or known or inferred to have its own distinct existence (living or nonliving).

Being Yourself - Authentic True Self

Authentic You is your genuine true self and the real you. It's the best person that you can be. You're not being false in anyway and you're not copying or mimicking others, and you're not pretending to be someone your not. It's just you at your best, being the person that you can count on, the person who's level headed, aware and in control. Authentic you is the best of who you are right now, but not the best that you will be tomorrow. Expand Your Mind and Develop.

Authenticity in philosophy is the degree to which an individual's actions are in agreement with their beliefs and desires, despite external pressures; the conscious self is seen as coming to terms with being in a material world and with encountering external forces, pressures, and influences which are very different from, and other than, itself. A lack of authenticity is considered in existentialism to be bad faith.

Being yourself and feeling comfortable around friends and family is really nice. But sometimes when you can act any way you want with friends, you don't always listen to your friends the way you should. Sometimes you're so comfortable with being yourself, that you feel that you're by yourself, and you end up not paying attention to the people you care about. And the scary part is, if everyone is doing this, then nobody is really paying attention to anyone. It's like everyone is in their own little world. We need to learn to balance our internal listening with our external listening. One cannot exist without the other. Make it a point in every interaction that you have with someone, to just listen. Take a moment every so often and just listen to the external world. There is a lot of communication going on in the world that we are not paying attention to. We need to connect, and we need to connect more often. How to be Yourself (wiki-how).

Be Yourself - Finding Yourself - Identity

This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.

True Self describes a sense of self based on spontaneous authentic experience, and a feeling of being alive, having a real self.

False Self describes a defensive facade—one which in extreme cases could leave its holders lacking spontaneity and feeling dead and empty, behind a mere appearance of being real. To maintain their self-esteem, and protect their vulnerable true selves, narcissists need to control others' behavior – particularly that of their children seen as extensions of themselves.

"By falsely believing your own individual self to be the body, you prevent yourself from experiencing your larger True Self."

Internalization describes the psychological outcome of a conscious mind reasoning about a specific subject; the subject is internalized, and the consideration of the subject is internal.

Self-Concept is a collection of beliefs about oneself that includes elements such as academic performance, gender roles, sexuality, and racial identity. Generally, self-concept embodies the answer to "Who am I?"

I Don't Want To Be anything other then me - Gavin DeGraw (youtube)

Act Natural, What's Natural? Act Normal. What's Normal? Being yourself is not easy, especially when you're always learning and maturing. So how can you be yourself when yourself is not totally defined just yet? How can you be yourself when being yourself is a lie? Being yourself is not who you are when you're still learning and growing. But this is not to say that there's always parts of yourself that never seem to fade, a part of your personality that you either enjoy, or have adapted too, or have excepted. This does not mean that you can't control your personality, it's more like you have grown accustom to it, like a habit. But it's hard to control something that you are not always aware of, and that is the key, Awareness. Awareness needs to have a system check, a default program, a series of questions that make you aware that you are out of your zone and in a situation that requires different processes and a different understanding, where you need to put your Ego on hold. You may feel obliged or obligated to do things with your friends, but that does not mean sacrifice, it should only mean a temporary change of plans, and not a reason to be stupid or disrespectable towards yourself or others. And this change has to feel natural, you want to be flexible, but not to the point of breaking. You don't want to do ignorant actions just to fit in, but you don't want to ignore Adventure or a chance to explore, unless you feel there's a better time and place, so don't be afraid to stop, but also don't feel pressured either, ask questions. And if you can't get the answers that you need, then wait till the answers are available. This is the only time does not mean that this is your only choice or option. Social Influences.

When I was in California in 1980 it seemed that everyone was pretending to be someone else, so you never knew who people really were. When you travel to a new place far from home you can be almost anyone you want to be and be any character you choose, this is because no one knows you. It's liberating to be whatever you want to be, but when you have very little knowledge of yourself and the world around you, you may not choose so wisely. I knew in the back of my mind that this is not a good way to find myself and I will have to find myself somewhere else. California is a paradise where you can easily lose yourself. But there was too many influences and not enough knowledge and information back then. So I needed to start over. But that took over 30 years. So it wasn't just about the place, it was also about access and the timing. And 1980 was not my time. 2008 was my time and Danbury Ct. was the place.

Breaking Character occurs when an actor ceases to maintain the illusion that they are identical with the character they are portraying. If the breaking of character is particularly serious, it is considered corpsing, which is theatrical slang for unintentionally breaking character by laughing.

Being Serious is speaking sincerely with truthful accuracy, requiring effort or concentration, rather than in a joking or halfhearted manner.

Being comfortable around someone does not mean that you have the right to fart any time you want, you should have more self-control as well as a little more respect, otherwise a friendship could get pretty ugly. Every friendship should have some sort of written ground rules or a written agreement that keeps the friendship from disintegrating into total chaos, like the friendships between most men do, it gets crazy.

Not all my friends are your friends, and not all your friends are my friends, only two thing's are for sure, you are my friend and I am you're friend.

Usual Mood - Behavior

Disposition is your usual mood. An acquired habit or characteristic tendency in a person or thing. An attitude of mind especially one that favors one alternative over others. Disposition (wiki).

Attitude is a psychological construct, it is a mental and emotional entity that inheres in, or characterizes a person. They are complex and an acquired state through experiences. It is an individual's predisposed state of mind regarding a perceived value and it is precipitated through a responsive expression toward a person, place, thing, or event (the attitude object) which in turn influences the individual's thought and action. Attitude can be formed from a person's past and present. Key topics in the study of attitudes include attitude measurement, attitude change, consumer behavior, and attitude-behavior relationships.

Point of View is a specified or stated manner of consideration, an attitude how one sees or thinks of something, as in "from doctor's point of view". World View (ideology) - Opinion.

Complex in psychology is a core pattern of emotions, memories, perceptions, and wishes in the personal unconscious organized around a common theme, such as power or status.

Tendency is an attitude of mind especially one that favors one alternative over others. An inclination to do something. A characteristic likelihood of or natural disposition toward a certain condition or character or effect. A general direction in which something tends to move.

Thinking Positive - Humorous

Mannerism is a behavioral attribute that is distinctive and peculiar to an individual. A habitual gesture or way of speaking or behaving; an idiosyncrasy, which is an unusual feature of a person like an odd habit or a strange attitude. Mannerism is a style in European art that emerged in the later years of the Italian High Renaissance around 1520, lasting until about 1580 in Italy, when the Baroque, which used exaggerated motion and clear, easily interpreted detail to produce drama, tension, exuberance, and grandeur in sculpture, painting, architecture, literature, dance, theater, and music. Culture.

Demeanor is the non-verbal behaviors such as body language and facial expressions that are characteristic of a person.

Idiosyncrasy is a behavioral attribute that is distinctive and peculiar to an individual.

Quirk is a strange attitude or habit. Peculiar is deviating from the usual or expected.

Persona is a personal facade that one presents to the world. A showy misrepresentation intended to conceal something unpleasant. An actor's portrayal of someone in a play.

Temperament broadly refers to consistent individual differences in behavior that are biologically based and are relatively independent of learning, system of values and attitudes. Some researchers point to association of temperament with formal dynamical features of behavior, such as energetic aspects, plasticity, sensitivity to specific reinforcers and emotionality. Temperament traits (such as Neuroticism, Sociability, Impulsivity, etc.) remain its distinct patterns in behavior throughout adulthood but they are most noticeable and most studied in children. Babies are typically described by temperament, but longitudinal research in the 1920s began to establish. Temperament as something which is stable across the lifespan of a person's or animal's nature, especially as it permanently affects their behavior. Four Temperaments (wiki) - Five Temperaments (wiki).

Charisma is compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others, or a divinely conferred power or talent.

"There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self." - Ernest Hemingway.

Robert Sapolsky: Are Humans Just Another Primate? (youtube)
Notes to Myself: My Struggle to Become a Person (amazon book)

Humanistic Education

Ethos is a Greek word meaning "character" that is used to describe the guiding beliefs or ideals that characterize a community, nation, or ideology. The Greeks also used this word to refer to the power of music to influence emotions, behaviours, and even morals. Early Greek stories of Orpheus exhibit this idea in a compelling way. The word's use in rhetoric is closely based on the Greek terminology used by Aristotle in his concept of the three artistic proofs.

Character is the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual. The inherent complex of attributes that determines a person's moral and ethical actions and reactions. Fictional Character.

"You will never become who you want to be if you keep blaming everyone else for who you are now."

"When you stop doing the wrong things you give yourself a chance to do the right things."

"There isn’t anything noble about being superior to another person. True nobility is in being superior to the person you once were. Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person you are."

Genuine is not fake or counterfeit. Not pretended. Being or reflecting the essential or genuine character of something. Genuine is being accurate, honest and thoughtful, but if you are honestly an as*hole, then you're not genuine.

Borderline Personality Disorder, or people who have become aware of how screwed up the world is. Changing Minds - Contemplative Mind.

Lying - Not Telling the Truth - Not being Honest

Lying is a statement that is not based on fact or reality so that it deceives or misleads other people from knowing the truth.

Perjury - Marketing Lies - Coercion - Deception - Scams - Con Games (ponzi)

Acting - Two Faced - Blaming Others - Hypocrisy

Media Lies - "The Most Damaging Lies are the Ones We Tell Ourselves."

Detect Lies (youtube) - Pamela Meyer: How to Spot a Liar (youtube)

Can you really tell if a kid is lying? (video and interactive text)

The language of lying - Noah Zandan (youtube)

Intuition - Body Language - Lies are more convincing when the person who is telling lies needs to urinate.

People with Mental Health Problems tend to lie more (afraid the truth will be misunderstood - Stigma).

Ignorant people tend to lie more, which is mostly because the truth is not easily understood or explained accurately, so it is not really lying, it's more of an inability to accurately explain the facts.

People tend to lie more when they are tired. I don't feel like telling the truth. 

Culture affects how people Deceive others say Researchers. They found the statements of Western liars tend to include fewer first-person "I" pronouns than the statements of truth-tellers. This is a common finding and believed to be due to the liar trying to distance themselves from the lie. However, they did not find this difference when examining the lies of Black African and South Asian participants. Instead, these participants increased their use of first person pronoun and decreased their third person "he/she" pronouns -- they sought to distance their social group rather than them self from the lie. There were also differences in the kinds of contextual details reported. The White European and White British participants followed the known trend of decreasing the perceptual information they provided in their lie. In contrast, the Black African and South Asian participants increased the perceptual information they gave when lying, to compensate for providing less social details."The results demonstrate that linguistic cues to deception do not appear consistently across all cultures. The differences are dictated by known cultural differences in cognition and social norms." This has implications for everything from forensic risk assessments, discrimination proceedings and the evaluation of asylum seekers.

Polygraph is a lie detector test device or procedure that measures and records several physiological indicators such as blood pressure, pulse, respiration, and skin conductivity while a person is asked and answers a series of questions. The belief underpinning the use of the polygraph is that deceptive answers will produce physiological responses that can be differentiated from those associated with non-deceptive answers. There are, however, no specific physiological reactions associated with lying, making it difficult to identify factors that separate liars from truth tellers. Polygraph examiners also prefer to use their own individual scoring method, as opposed to computerized techniques, as they may more easily defend their own evaluations.

Truth is Debatable - Observation Flaws - Trick Questions

The Truth About Lie Detectors (aka Polygraph Tests). To detect a person's veracity by monitoring psychophysiological changes is more myth than reality. Even the term "Lie Detector," used to refer to Polygraph Testing, is a misnomer. So-called "lie detection" involves inferring deception through analysis of physiological responses to a structured, but unstandardized, series of questions.

There this thing about reading people. The truth of the matter can not be totally confirmed, it does not reveal truth. That person is nervous, does not say why they are nervous. And the person might not know why their nervous themselves. So are you helping them, or are you judging them?

Deception Detection is the ability to tell when someone is lying. Research has consistently shown that people's ability to detect lies is no more accurate than chance, or flipping a coin. Traditional police practices in deception detection stem from early theories on lying that assume liars will exhibit stress-based cues because they fear being caught and feel guilty about lying. This theory led researchers to search for reliable behavioral indicators of deception. They examined behaviors such as posture shifts, gaze aversion, and foot and hand movements, without much success.

Perjury is the offense of willfully telling an untruth or Lie in a Court after having taken an oath or affirmation. Intentional act of swearing a false Oath or of falsifying an affirmation to tell the Truth.

Sworn Testimony is evidence given by a witness who has made a commitment to tell the truth. If the witness is later found to have lied whilst bound by the commitment, they can often be charged with the crime of perjury. The types of commitment can include oaths, affirmations and promises. The exact wording of the commitments vary from country to country.

Oath is to swear (announce publicly or officially and promise not to Lie) that the evidence that I shall give, shall be the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, so help me God.

Affirmation in Law is a solemn declaration allowed to those who conscientiously object to taking an oath.

Oath a statement of fact or a promise with wording relating to something considered sacred as a sign of verity.

Mind Games is a passive–aggressive behavior to specifically demoralize or dis-empower the thinking subject, making the aggressor look superior; also referred to as "power games".

Kari Faux, 'Lie 2 My Face' (youtube)

Oh, what a Tangled Web we Weave, When first we Practice to Deceive!

"One of the greatest benefits that comes from having knowledge is that it helps you to detect when someone is lying, and even when you're lying to yourself. The more intelligent you become the less bullshit you will have. You will be more aware of things and a lot more understanding of what you're aware of. BK101 is the holy grail reimagined. A WTF moment every single day. Life will never stop being amazing as long as you keep being amazed about what you can learn about life. Fascinating is an understatement."

Related Subjects to Lying - Secret - Politics - Money - Denial - Naivety - Trust - Validity - Body Language - Micro Expressions - Recidivism - Social Predators - Callous-Unemotional - Bad - Wrong.

Answer quickly to be believed. Pausing before replying decreases perceived sincerity, study says. When people pause before replying to a question, even for just a few seconds, their answers are perceived to be less sincere and credible than if they had replied immediately, according to new research.

Ego - Arrogance

Ego is an inflated feeling of pride in your perceived superiority to others.

Egotistical is characteristic of those having an inflated idea of their own importance. Characteristic of false pride and having an exaggerated sense of self-importance. Extreme selfishness and a lack of empathy.

Egotism is the drive to maintain and enhance favorable views of oneself, and generally features an inflated opinion of one's personal features and importance. It often includes intellectual, physical, social and other overestimations.

Egomania is also known as an obsessive preoccupation with one's self and applies to someone who follows their own ungoverned impulses and is possessed by delusions of personal greatness and feels a lack of appreciation.

Egocentrism is a person who is mostly concerned about their own interests and welfare, and not so much concerned for other peoples interests and welfare. Egocentric person believes that they are the center of attention, like a narcissist, but does not receive gratification by one's own admiration. It's having an inability to differentiate between self and other or an inability to understand or assume any perspective other than their own. The inability to untangle subjective schemas from objective reality.

Egocentric is a self-centered person with little regard for others.

Arrogance is overbearing pride and an exaggerated feeling of superiority above others who are perceived as inferiors.

Sophomania is a delusion of having superior intelligence.

Cocky is conceited or arrogant, especially in a bold or disrespectful way.

Over Confidence - Flaunting - When Power Corrupts - Embellish - Privilege

Pompous is being puffed up with vanity Feelings of excessive pride.

Highfalutin is being pompous or pretentious. Pretending to Know.

Pretentious is making an undeserved claim or creating an appearance of importance or distinction that is intended to attract notice and impress others. Show Off.

Pomposity is the quality of being pompous; self-importance.

Puffed up is characteristic of false pride; having an exaggerated sense of self-importance.

Full of Yourself is to be very self-satisfied and with an exaggerated sense of self-worth.

Smug is having or showing an excessive pride in oneself or proud of one's achievements, even if those achievements were irrelevant or just the result of you feeling good about being a scumbag to someone. Maybe you're not aware that you're malevolent, but ignorance is not an excuse.

Grandiose Delusions is characterized by fantastical beliefs that one is famous, omnipotent, wealthy, or otherwise very powerful, without rational comparisons or verification.

Megalomania is obsession with the exercise of power, especially in the domination of others. Delusion about one's own power or importance, typically as a symptom of manic or paranoid disorder. A psychological state characterized by delusions of grandeur.

God Complex is an unshakable belief characterized by consistently inflated feelings of personal ability, privilege, or infallibility. A person with a god complex may refuse to admit the possibility of their error or failure, even in the face of irrefutable evidence, intractable problems or difficult or impossible tasks. The person is also highly dogmatic in their views, meaning the person speaks of their personal opinions as though they are unquestionably correct. Someone with a god complex may exhibit no regard for the conventions and demands of society, and may request special consideration or privileges.

Over Confident - Thinking you're more special because you're Famous

Me, Me, Me (selfishness) - The World Does Not Revolve Around You - Denial

Nothing wrong with being confident and proud. It's just when you look down at people, because you believe that you're better then others, that's when you look like an as*hole, and everything that you have accomplished in your life is wasted in one moment of selfish foolishness. That's usually when shame, embarrassment and disgrace appears, that's if you're lucky, because some people never realize the mistake they're making. Feeling good about yourself can be a blessing or a curse. So you have a choice. But first you have to learn the positives and the negatives that come from good and bad behaviors, this way you can always make good decisions, and not have to suffer from your mistakes so drastically.

Shadow in psychology is everything of which a person is not fully conscious of. The shadow is the "dark side" where one tends to reject or remain ignorant of the least desirable aspects of one's personality, the shadow is largely negative. There are, however, positive aspects that may also remain hidden in one's shadow, especially in people with low self-esteem, anxieties, and false beliefs.

Hubris is having overbearing pride or presumption in a manner that is rude and insulting.

Conceited s having feelings of excessive pride or false pride and having an exaggerated sense of self-importance.

Vanity is feelings of excessive pride. Vanity is the excessive belief in one's own abilities or attractiveness to others.

Bragging is being excessively proud and boastful about one's achievements or possessions. Exhibiting self-importance. An instance of boastful talk.

Boasting is to speak with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one's achievements, possessions, or abilities. Boasting occurs when someone feels a sense of satisfaction or when someone feels that whatever occurred proves their superiority and is recounting accomplishments so that others will feel admiration or envy. Individuals construct an image of themselves, a personal identity, and present themselves in a manner that is consistent with that image. A self-presentation, when individuals seek to balance boasting against discrediting themselves with excessive self-promotion or being caught blatantly misrepresenting themselves. Studies show that people often have a limited ability to perceive how their efforts at self-presentation are actually impacting their acceptance and likeability by others.

Pride is a feeling of perceived self-respect and personal worth. Satisfaction with your or another's achievements. Pride (wiki).

Pride is similar to confidence. You don't want to have too much pride or have too much confidence. You want just enough pride to understand your worth and value, but not have too much pride that you lessen the worth and value of others. You want just enough confidence that you are aware of your abilities, but not too much confidence that you over estimate your abilities or under estimate the abilities of others. Paranoid - Privilege.

Foolish Pride is being too proud to admit that you're wrong. You can't admit that you have made a mistake. You think that apologies are a sign of weakness and ignorance, and it's too embarrassing to your fragile ego to admit that you're human. A person who pretends to be strong and intelligent, is often not. Defense mechanisms are being used incorrectly to manipulate  the perception of reality and challenge obvious facts, as if there is no truth. These are just excuses that people use in order to avoid any type of work where they have to learn something. They act as if they're a genius and they require no more knowledge and information. They act like a know it all, but have no proof and no evidence. If you never admit fault and never apologize, and if you always blame someone else, and also have a profound lack of empathy, it may mean that you're becoming a psychopath. Excessive pride is an exaggerated appreciation of oneself by devaluating others. It is often driven by poor self-worth. We are so insecure that we compensate by feeling superior. And look for others' flaws as a way to disguise our own. We spend too much time competing with other people and comparing ourselves to other people. We need to spend more time learning instead of wasting time on churning. 

Presumption is an assumption that is taken for granted. Audacious or even arrogant behavior that you have no right to. A kind of discourtesy in the form of an act of presuming. Subservient.

Audacious is being invulnerable to fear or intimidation.

Impudent is marked by casual disrespect. Improperly forward or bold. Bragging.

Immodest is acting without customary restraint or modesty of expression; shameless.

Prejudice - Bias - Blame Shifting

Compensation is a defense mechanism that conceals your undesirable shortcomings by exaggerating desirable behaviors.

Self-Centered is the inability to differentiate between self and other. More specifically, it is the inability to untangle subjective schemas from objective reality; an inability to understand or assume any perspective other than their own. Egocentrism.

Narcissist is a person who has an excessive admiration of themselves. Someone in love with themselves.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Conceited, is a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of understanding of others' feelings. People affected by it often spend a lot of time thinking about achieving power or success, or about their appearance. They often take advantage of the people around them. The behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and occurs across a variety of situations.

Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's own attributes. The term originated from Greek mythology, where the young Narcissus fell in love with his own image reflected in a pool of water.

Psychological Egoism is the view that humans are always motivated by Self-interest, even in what seem to be acts of altruism. It claims that, when people choose to help others, they do so ultimately because of the personal benefits that they themselves expect to obtain, directly or indirectly, from doing so.

Adolescent Egocentrism describes the phenomenon of adolescents' inability to distinguish between their perception of what others think about them and what people actually think in reality. Adolescents are able to conceptualize their own thoughts and conceive of other people's thoughts, but most adolescents tend to focus mostly on their own perceptions – especially on their behaviors and appearance – because of the "physiological metamorphosis" they experience during this period. This leads to adolescents' belief that other people are as attentive to their behaviors and appearance as they are of themselves.

Id, Ego and Super-Ego, the id is the set of uncoordinated instinctual trends; the super-ego plays the critical and moralizing role; and the ego is the organized, realistic part that mediates between the desires of the id and the super-ego. The super-ego can stop one from doing certain things that one's id may want to do.

Alter Ego is a second self, which is believed to be distinct from a person's normal or original personality. A person who has an alter ego is said to lead a double life.

Two-Faced - Living a Lie

The Imaginary is one of three terms in the psychoanalytic perspective of Jacques Lacan, along with the Symbolic and the Real. The basis of the Imaginary order is the formation of the ego in the "mirror stage."

False Ego are psychological concepts often used in connection with narcissism.

Ziggy Stardust - David Bowie (youtube) - Making love with his ego, Ziggy sucked up into his mind, Like a leper messiah, When the kids had killed the man I had to break up the band.

True Self is to describe a sense of self based on spontaneous authentic experience, and a feeling of being alive, having a real self.

Self-Fulfilling Prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior. Placebo.

Defense Mechanisms

Defence Mechanisms are used to manipulate, deny, or distort reality in order to defend against feelings of anxiety and unacceptable impulses and to maintain one's self-schema. Defence mechanism is an unconscious psychological mechanism that reduces anxiety arising from unacceptable or potentially harmful stimuli. These processes that manipulate, deny, or distort reality may include the following: repression, or the burying of a painful feeling or thought from one's awareness even though it may resurface in a symbolic form; identification, incorporating an object or thought into oneself; and rationalization, the justification of one's behaviour and motivations by substituting "good" acceptable reasons for the actual motivations. In psychoanalytic theory, repression is considered as the basis for other defence mechanisms. Healthy persons normally use different defences throughout life. An ego defense mechanism becomes pathological only when its persistent use leads to maladaptive behaviour such that the physical or mental health of the individual is adversely affected. Among the purposes of ego defence mechanisms is to protect the mind/self/ego from anxiety or social sanctions or to provide a refuge from a situation with which one cannot currently cope.

Compensation in psychiatry is a defense mechanism that conceals your undesirable shortcomings by exaggerating desirable behaviors.

Compartmentalization is a subconscious psychological defense mechanism used to avoid cognitive dissonance, or the mental discomfort and anxiety caused by a person's having conflicting values, cognitions, emotions, beliefs, etc. within themselves. Compartmentalization allows these conflicting ideas to co-exist by inhibiting direct or explicit acknowledgement and interaction between separate compartmentalized self-states. Denial.

Pretending to understand something is a type of defense mechanism where you don't want to admit that you don't understand something because you fear that it will make you look ignorant.

Cognitive Dissonance is the mental discomfort or psychological stress experienced by a person who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values. This discomfort is triggered by a situation in which a person's belief clashes with new evidence perceived by the person. When confronted with facts that contradict beliefs, ideals, and values, people will try to find a way to resolve the contradiction to reduce their discomfort.

Sublimation in psychology is a mature type of defense mechanism, in which socially unacceptable impulses or idealizations are transformed into socially acceptable actions or behavior, possibly resulting in a long-term conversion of the initial impulse.

Praise (stimuli)

Psychological Projection in which humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others. For example, a person who is habitually rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude. It incorporates blame shifting.

Regression is a defense mechanism leading to the temporary or long-term reversion of the ego to an earlier stage of development rather than handling unacceptable impulses in a more adult way.

Decadence is a perceived decay in standards, morals, dignity, religious faith, or skill at governing among the members of the elite of a very large social structure, such as an empire or nation state. By extension, it may refer to a decline in art, literature, science, technology, and work ethics, or (very loosely) to self-indulgent behavior.


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I Don't Want to Be Gavin DeGraw (youtube)
I don't need to be anything other than a prison guard's son.
I don't need to be anything other than a specialist's son.
I don't have to be anyone other than the birth of two souls in one.
Part of where I'm going is knowing where I'm coming from.
I don't want to be anything, Other than what I've been trying to be lately
All I have to do is think of me and I have peace of mind.
I'm tired of looking around rooms wondering what I gotta do, Or who I'm supposed to be
I don't want to be anything other than me.
I'm surrounded by liars everywhere I turn.
I'm surrounded by imposters everywhere I turn.
I'm surrounded by identity crisis everywhere I turn.
Am I the only one to notice?
I can't be the only one who's learned.
I don't want to be anything, Other than what I've been trying to be lately.
All I have to do is think of me and I have peace of mind.
I'm tired of looking around rooms wondering what I gotta do, Or who I'm supposed to be.
I don't want to be anything other than me.
Can I have everyone's attention please.
If you're not like this and that, You're gonna have to leave
I came from the mountain, the crust of creation.
My whole situation made from clay to stone.
And now I'm telling everybody,
I don't want to be anything, Other than what I've been trying to be lately.
All I have to do is think of me and I have peace of mind.
I'm tired of looking around rooms wondering what I gotta do
Or who I'm supposed to be, I don't want to be anything other than me.
I don't want to be, I don't want to be, I don't want to be, I don't want to be.